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A lot of people during the holidays experience feelings of loneliness and isolation. Parties that are a time to socialize and meet other new people can be difficult when you don’t feel like you have anything in common with anyone there. Here are some ideas for meeting other people at holiday events, whether it’s your […]

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A lot of people during the holidays experience feelings of loneliness and isolation. Parties that are a time to socialize and meet other new people can be difficult when you don’t feel like you have anything in common with anyone there.

Here are some ideas for meeting other people at holiday events, whether it’s your annual office party or your mom’s big holiday dinner, so you’ll have a good time without feeling stressed out!

1. Look approachable

A lot of people come to the party wanting to stay by themself. They sort of disappear into the background, and no one knows who they are. So greet people you recognize and try to talk to them. If you don’t know anyone, just smile, look approachable and hang out near a group of people who seem to be having a good time—it’ll be contagious! Have a glass of passion fruit wine, some eggnog, or maybe a plate of hors d’oeuvres in your hand so you can look like you fit in there too.

2. Ask open-ended questions

Lots of people are worried about socializing at the holiday party because they don’t know what to say. It’s better to focus on the important stuff, like talking about their families and interests, rather than constantly talking about themselves. If you ask open-ended questions like “What do you like to do for fun?” or “Do you have any children? Where did you grow up?” then people will feel more comfortable enough to share some things. They may feel pressure if they are wrapped up in their own feelings and secrets, but if they can open up a little bit, they’ll enjoy meeting other people and be glad that they decided to come out of their shells!

 3. Be socially generous

People love to tell their stories to good listeners, so be sure to ask follow-up questions and show genuine interest in what they have to say. Ask them questions like “How did you end up there?” or “What made you decide on that?” and encourage them to share as much as possible. If you’re really interested, be sure that your tone of voice and body language show that you are interested. Don’t just nod your head while looking off into the distance. More often than not, it’ll come off as disinterested, so maintain eye contact while turning your body towards them and nodding with enthusiasm. Keep your questions coming! Listen attentively and try not to interrupt.

 4. Don’t be negative about yourself

If you’re feeling anxious about being at a party where you don’t know anyone, you’re going to be more likely to make snide comments about people. If someone laughs at your joke, pretend like the joke was yours and not theirs. When someone asks if you want another drink, try a smile and say no—don’t make an excuse to get away from them by saying that they should stay away because they just drank too much or that they can’t handle the alcohol or whatever. Smile when people compliment you on something, say yes if they invite you to do something, and don’t take every opportunity to talk about how terrible it is that there are so many people at the party who are being negative.

 5. Compliment others

Compliments and positive comments will make people feel better about themselves, which makes them smile. Don’t be shy about telling others how nice they look or sharing with them how much you love the way their outfit matches your shoes. Don’t try to make people feel like they need to do something that would embarrass them. Just tell them how beautiful they look or compliment the food and ask for more when it’s getting low on the table. Compliments go a long way in making someone feel good about themselves, especially when coming from a person who seems genuinely interested in what they have to say.

In conclusion, being at a party is a great way to meet new people, but you’ll end up having a more enjoyable time if you put aside your desire not to talk to people and make an effort to talk about what interests others.

The post Tips to Socialize at Your Holiday Party appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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A lot of people during the holidays experience feelings of loneliness and isolation. Parties that are a time to socialize and meet other new people can be difficult when you don’t feel like you have anything in common with anyone there.

Here are some ideas for meeting other people at holiday events, whether it’s your annual office party or your mom’s big holiday dinner, so you’ll have a good time without feeling stressed out!

1. Look approachable

A lot of people come to the party wanting to stay by themself. They sort of disappear into the background, and no one knows who they are. So greet people you recognize and try to talk to them. If you don’t know anyone, just smile, look approachable and hang out near a group of people who seem to be having a good time—it’ll be contagious! Have a glass of passion fruit wine, some eggnog, or maybe a plate of hors d’oeuvres in your hand so you can look like you fit in there too.

2. Ask open-ended questions

Lots of people are worried about socializing at the holiday party because they don’t know what to say. It’s better to focus on the important stuff, like talking about their families and interests, rather than constantly talking about themselves. If you ask open-ended questions like “What do you like to do for fun?” or “Do you have any children? Where did you grow up?” then people will feel more comfortable enough to share some things. They may feel pressure if they are wrapped up in their own feelings and secrets, but if they can open up a little bit, they’ll enjoy meeting other people and be glad that they decided to come out of their shells!

 3. Be socially generous

People love to tell their stories to good listeners, so be sure to ask follow-up questions and show genuine interest in what they have to say. Ask them questions like “How did you end up there?” or “What made you decide on that?” and encourage them to share as much as possible. If you’re really interested, be sure that your tone of voice and body language show that you are interested. Don’t just nod your head while looking off into the distance. More often than not, it’ll come off as disinterested, so maintain eye contact while turning your body towards them and nodding with enthusiasm. Keep your questions coming! Listen attentively and try not to interrupt.

 4. Don’t be negative about yourself

If you’re feeling anxious about being at a party where you don’t know anyone, you’re going to be more likely to make snide comments about people. If someone laughs at your joke, pretend like the joke was yours and not theirs. When someone asks if you want another drink, try a smile and say no—don’t make an excuse to get away from them by saying that they should stay away because they just drank too much or that they can’t handle the alcohol or whatever. Smile when people compliment you on something, say yes if they invite you to do something, and don’t take every opportunity to talk about how terrible it is that there are so many people at the party who are being negative.

 5. Compliment others

Compliments and positive comments will make people feel better about themselves, which makes them smile. Don’t be shy about telling others how nice they look or sharing with them how much you love the way their outfit matches your shoes. Don’t try to make people feel like they need to do something that would embarrass them. Just tell them how beautiful they look or compliment the food and ask for more when it’s getting low on the table. Compliments go a long way in making someone feel good about themselves, especially when coming from a person who seems genuinely interested in what they have to say.

In conclusion, being at a party is a great way to meet new people, but you’ll end up having a more enjoyable time if you put aside your desire not to talk to people and make an effort to talk about what interests others.

The post Tips to Socialize at Your Holiday Party appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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What Are You Looking For?

The biggest thing about online dating is that you have the chance to specifically look for the type of dating or encounters that you have in mind. Thus, there’s no point in putting your efforts where they aren’t really invested. If you just want to hook up with women, make sure that you’re clear about that and that you use the appropriate dating and hookup apps to do so. If you aren’t clear about what you want, how can you expect to find people to share that with?

Don’t Be “That Guy”

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Use the Right Resources

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Know What to Say—And What Not to Say

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The world of online dating is constantly changing and evolving, but one thing continues to remain the same: women want men who can get, and keep, their attention by being witty, charming, and intelligent. Therefore, you’ve got to have a better plan of approach than the standard 20 questions game. If you really want to catch the eye of a potential partner, or even just a casual romantic interest, you have to know how to do it.

The online dating world makes it more accessible to find people, but it doesn’t necessarily make anything easier. Now that you have these tips, however, your odds of succeeding with your online dating efforts should be much higher.

The post How to Get the Right Attention appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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What Are You Looking For?

The biggest thing about online dating is that you have the chance to specifically look for the type of dating or encounters that you have in mind. Thus, there’s no point in putting your efforts where they aren’t really invested. If you just want to hook up with women, make sure that you’re clear about that and that you use the appropriate dating and hookup apps to do so. If you aren’t clear about what you want, how can you expect to find people to share that with?

Don’t Be “That Guy”

Men have a bad reputation for misusing messenger services and online dating apps by being too forward and solicitous of the women available. Stop sending NSFW pics that haven’t been requested. Don’t just tell a girl she’s hot. Take a minute to read the profile, check out the pictures, and then come up with a thoughtful introduction to let her know that you want to hookup, date, or have other intentions. Girls aren’t complicated and they don’t always expect a gentleman, but you have to know what they want before you try to give it to them.

Use the Right Resources

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Know What to Say—And What Not to Say

Part of the success or failure of your online relationships comes in what you say and how you say it. Make sure that you are polite and respectful to people that you are meeting online for the first time. Don’t start the conversation with dirty pictures or a cheesy line. Be genuine and give women the chance to get to know you, and they’re far more likely to even consider hookups if you aren’t really looking for serious dating.

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The online dating world makes it more accessible to find people, but it doesn’t necessarily make anything easier. Now that you have these tips, however, your odds of succeeding with your online dating efforts should be much higher.

The post How to Get the Right Attention appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Before couples say “I do,” they usually go through a lengthy wedding day checklist. While choosing the right attire, venue, and menu are all critical for the big day, some couples will forget to discuss topics that may affect their relationship after the honeymoon is long over.

However, it’s a good idea to bring up uncomfortable topics to get a gauge of how your partner will act. For example, knowing how your partner handles conflict, prefers to raise children, and expresses love can give you an idea of how your relationship will pan out over the next decade.

But the true culprit of marital or couple disputes is often money. In fact, one-third of couples report that finances are a major source of conflict. Compared to other touchy topics, discussions over money are often more intense and problematic and are less likely to be solved.

While couples who are seriously dating will talk about money at some point, they may stick to surface-level conversations that won’t include future family planning, travel, or donations.

According to studies, couples are more likely to argue about merging their money, debt, budgeting, investing, and savings than any other topic. Money is also one of the leading causes of divorce, so a conversation about money is essential to experience a long, happy marriage. 

5 Money Conversations to Make Your Marriage Thrive

If you’ve already decided on a date, you likely want to spend your time planning your wedding. But if you want to experience a “Happily Ever After,” you need to discuss the following topics.

How Will We Split the Bills? What If We Can’t Keep That Arrangement?

It’s common for spouses to split the bills 50/50, regardless of how much each person makes. This arrangement sounds fair and can often be fair if couples make a similar amount of money or can come to a decision on how much to spend on necessities and non-necessities. 

However, if one person in the couplet wants to save and the other doesn’t or makes much more less than the other, it could limit both people’s ability to spend. It’s a good idea to come up with a compromise. Otherwise, one person may hide how much they spend from the other spouse. 

To ensure bill splitting is fair for both people, ask your spouse the following:

It’s important to create specific scenarios when asking how you’ll split the bills, as your spouse will likely look at money differently depending on how you pose the question. You can even suggest ways to build financial security now, so bill splitting remains a positive topic.

How Will You Track Your Finances and Manage Long-Term Debt?

Paying attention to your spending habits will help you budget, and lowering your personal debt will help protect your financial future. The first problem is easy to solve, as couples can use financial insights apps and tools to track their spending, credit score, and debt payments.

However, actually paying off your debt can be challenging. Debt may limit a person’s spending choices, but every choice one spouse makes will affect the other. But debt is commonplace and isn’t always a result of someone’s bad choices. If they’re committed to paying it off, all is well.

Before getting married, ask the following questions about your spouse’s debt:

If your spouse doesn’t know how to start paying off their debts, suggest getting help from a financial expert. They can set them up with a repayment plan or teach them better habits.

Would You Describe Yourself as a Money Spender or a Saver?

Most people fall into one of five money personality types: big spenders, savers, shoppers, debtors, and investors. Ideally, you and your spouse will fall into the saver or investor category, but it’s fine if they don’t. It’s okay to splurge once in a while if you have the funds to support it.

At the same time, you need to decide if the way your partner spends money could spark a debate. If you think every penny should be saved, but your spouse prefers to live a luxurious lifestyle, would that upset you? Or would they be open to saving some of their extra money?

Your spouse’s habits can affect yours, so get a feel of their money personality by asking:

Although we assume our partner will spend money in a similar way, that isn’t always the case. The way they spend could change based on what they’re buying or what mood they’re in.

When Would You Consider it Necessary to Dictate My Spending Habits?

Topics like financial abuse are hard to talk about, but they’re essential to bring up because 78% of Americans don’t consider financial abuse as domestic violence. Control comes in many forms, so it’s vital that you’re aware of the signs. This will allow you to seek help if you need it.

At the same time, your spouse may take control of your finances for a good reason, like if you’re overspending and you’re currently unemployed. But a loving partner wouldn’t cut you off without your consent or unless it was necessary. They should talk to you first before doing anything.

To assess whether your spouse would dictate your spending, ask the following:

Although there may be a rationale behind dictating a person’s spending priorities, it’s still important to cooperate as a team and be transparent about each other’s spending habits.

Will Our Extended Family Cause Us Significant Financial Pressure?

It can be expensive to raise children, but your spouse may have a different idea of what that means. For example, they may be calculating how much it will cost to raise a child until they’re 18, but what if they live with you longer? What if one of you wants to be a stay-at-home spouse?

Once you join a family, you also have to consider how much seeing or supporting them may cost. Some families rely on their children’s income, whereas others prefer to take luxurious vacations. Or, they may want to see you often, which may be difficult due to work or school.

If your spouse is close to their family or wants to have a family, ask these questions:

There are few wrong answers to these questions, so it’s up to your preferences. For example, you may be okay with supporting your parents after they retire, but your spouse may not. Their reasons as to why they don’t want to support your parents are more important than the “no.”

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However, it’s a good idea to bring up uncomfortable topics to get a gauge of how your partner will act. For example, knowing how your partner handles conflict, prefers to raise children, and expresses love can give you an idea of how your relationship will pan out over the next decade.

But the true culprit of marital or couple disputes is often money. In fact, one-third of couples report that finances are a major source of conflict. Compared to other touchy topics, discussions over money are often more intense and problematic and are less likely to be solved.

While couples who are seriously dating will talk about money at some point, they may stick to surface-level conversations that won’t include future family planning, travel, or donations.

According to studies, couples are more likely to argue about merging their money, debt, budgeting, investing, and savings than any other topic. Money is also one of the leading causes of divorce, so a conversation about money is essential to experience a long, happy marriage. 

5 Money Conversations to Make Your Marriage Thrive

If you’ve already decided on a date, you likely want to spend your time planning your wedding. But if you want to experience a “Happily Ever After,” you need to discuss the following topics.

How Will We Split the Bills? What If We Can’t Keep That Arrangement?

It’s common for spouses to split the bills 50/50, regardless of how much each person makes. This arrangement sounds fair and can often be fair if couples make a similar amount of money or can come to a decision on how much to spend on necessities and non-necessities. 

However, if one person in the couplet wants to save and the other doesn’t or makes much more less than the other, it could limit both people’s ability to spend. It’s a good idea to come up with a compromise. Otherwise, one person may hide how much they spend from the other spouse. 

To ensure bill splitting is fair for both people, ask your spouse the following:

It’s important to create specific scenarios when asking how you’ll split the bills, as your spouse will likely look at money differently depending on how you pose the question. You can even suggest ways to build financial security now, so bill splitting remains a positive topic.

How Will You Track Your Finances and Manage Long-Term Debt?

Paying attention to your spending habits will help you budget, and lowering your personal debt will help protect your financial future. The first problem is easy to solve, as couples can use financial insights apps and tools to track their spending, credit score, and debt payments.

However, actually paying off your debt can be challenging. Debt may limit a person’s spending choices, but every choice one spouse makes will affect the other. But debt is commonplace and isn’t always a result of someone’s bad choices. If they’re committed to paying it off, all is well.

Before getting married, ask the following questions about your spouse’s debt:

If your spouse doesn’t know how to start paying off their debts, suggest getting help from a financial expert. They can set them up with a repayment plan or teach them better habits.

Would You Describe Yourself as a Money Spender or a Saver?

Most people fall into one of five money personality types: big spenders, savers, shoppers, debtors, and investors. Ideally, you and your spouse will fall into the saver or investor category, but it’s fine if they don’t. It’s okay to splurge once in a while if you have the funds to support it.

At the same time, you need to decide if the way your partner spends money could spark a debate. If you think every penny should be saved, but your spouse prefers to live a luxurious lifestyle, would that upset you? Or would they be open to saving some of their extra money?

Your spouse’s habits can affect yours, so get a feel of their money personality by asking:

Although we assume our partner will spend money in a similar way, that isn’t always the case. The way they spend could change based on what they’re buying or what mood they’re in.

When Would You Consider it Necessary to Dictate My Spending Habits?

Topics like financial abuse are hard to talk about, but they’re essential to bring up because 78% of Americans don’t consider financial abuse as domestic violence. Control comes in many forms, so it’s vital that you’re aware of the signs. This will allow you to seek help if you need it.

At the same time, your spouse may take control of your finances for a good reason, like if you’re overspending and you’re currently unemployed. But a loving partner wouldn’t cut you off without your consent or unless it was necessary. They should talk to you first before doing anything.

To assess whether your spouse would dictate your spending, ask the following:

Although there may be a rationale behind dictating a person’s spending priorities, it’s still important to cooperate as a team and be transparent about each other’s spending habits.

Will Our Extended Family Cause Us Significant Financial Pressure?

It can be expensive to raise children, but your spouse may have a different idea of what that means. For example, they may be calculating how much it will cost to raise a child until they’re 18, but what if they live with you longer? What if one of you wants to be a stay-at-home spouse?

Once you join a family, you also have to consider how much seeing or supporting them may cost. Some families rely on their children’s income, whereas others prefer to take luxurious vacations. Or, they may want to see you often, which may be difficult due to work or school.

If your spouse is close to their family or wants to have a family, ask these questions:

There are few wrong answers to these questions, so it’s up to your preferences. For example, you may be okay with supporting your parents after they retire, but your spouse may not. Their reasons as to why they don’t want to support your parents are more important than the “no.”

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Your wedding will almost certainly be the largest celebration you’ve ever hosted, and initially, planning a wedding might seem rather challenging.

We advise concentrating on one task at a time to avoid stressful situations during the planning process.

However, the steps are always the same whether you are planning a modest gathering or a large, extravagant event. This article breaks down important steps to decide on a budget, get inspiration, and select your guest list.

Decide On A Wedding Budget

Most of your wedding-related choices will be influenced by your budget. Therefore this ought to be one of your top priorities. You can ask family members or friends who plan to contribute how much they feel comfortable spending.

You should look closely at your funds if you’re paying for the expenditure yourself. When making a budget for your wedding, you should be ready for a reality check because most couples are unaware of the amount of spending involved. After you have determined the exact amount, don’t budge away.

Consider the Dates

To avoid being constricted while trying to reserve the wedding venue, pick a few preferred dates for your wedding and be ready to stay flexible.

It is also important to realise that there are some dates when the guests may be unable to attend the wedding. For instance – Public Holidays.

You should also think about having your wedding in a low profile season to avoid high pricing.

Choose Your Wedding Style

It would be best if you start by narrowing down your favorite bridal inspiration sources, such as Instagram, Pinterest, and magazines. After you begin visiting with prospective providers, you can clearly understand the wedding style you desire.

Don’t let the abundance of wedding inspiration make you overwhelmed. You may choose the theme and style you want and stay in line with your bigger vision by creating a few Pinterest boards or a physical one in your diary. Also, men’s wedding bands need a lot of previous planning as well so keep that in mind.

It might also be helpful to make a list of what you want or not so that you can more effectively analyze the inspirations.

Get Wedding Bands

Buying wedding rings is one of the first steps you might want to take before jumping into the whole wedding planning process.

You can either go with your partner to get matching couple rings or keep it a surprise from them until the big day. A meteorite ring is a trend for all the visible reasons so make sure you take it into consideration.

Make a Master Checklist

To stay organized and handle responsibilities like a professional, you should go over a comprehensive wedding planning checklist and timetable. This will enable you to prioritize your objectives without becoming overburdened by them all at once.

Following a list for your wedding planning can ensure a seamless and largely stress-free approach and help you confirm that you aren’t missing anything important.

Conclusion

Planning a wedding can be time consuming but previous considerations come in handy. Make sure you consider the above mentioned factors before planning your big day.

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Your wedding will almost certainly be the largest celebration you’ve ever hosted, and initially, planning a wedding might seem rather challenging. We advise concentrating on one task at a time to avoid stressful situations during the planning process. However, the steps are always the same whether you are planning a modest gathering or a large, […]

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Your wedding will almost certainly be the largest celebration you’ve ever hosted, and initially, planning a wedding might seem rather challenging.

We advise concentrating on one task at a time to avoid stressful situations during the planning process.

However, the steps are always the same whether you are planning a modest gathering or a large, extravagant event. This article breaks down important steps to decide on a budget, get inspiration, and select your guest list.

Decide On A Wedding Budget

Most of your wedding-related choices will be influenced by your budget. Therefore this ought to be one of your top priorities. You can ask family members or friends who plan to contribute how much they feel comfortable spending.

You should look closely at your funds if you’re paying for the expenditure yourself. When making a budget for your wedding, you should be ready for a reality check because most couples are unaware of the amount of spending involved. After you have determined the exact amount, don’t budge away.

Consider the Dates

To avoid being constricted while trying to reserve the wedding venue, pick a few preferred dates for your wedding and be ready to stay flexible.

It is also important to realise that there are some dates when the guests may be unable to attend the wedding. For instance – Public Holidays.

You should also think about having your wedding in a low profile season to avoid high pricing.

Choose Your Wedding Style

It would be best if you start by narrowing down your favorite bridal inspiration sources, such as Instagram, Pinterest, and magazines. After you begin visiting with prospective providers, you can clearly understand the wedding style you desire.

Don’t let the abundance of wedding inspiration make you overwhelmed. You may choose the theme and style you want and stay in line with your bigger vision by creating a few Pinterest boards or a physical one in your diary. Also, men’s wedding bands need a lot of previous planning as well so keep that in mind.

It might also be helpful to make a list of what you want or not so that you can more effectively analyze the inspirations.

Get Wedding Bands

Buying wedding rings is one of the first steps you might want to take before jumping into the whole wedding planning process.

You can either go with your partner to get matching couple rings or keep it a surprise from them until the big day. A meteorite ring is a trend for all the visible reasons so make sure you take it into consideration.

Make a Master Checklist

To stay organized and handle responsibilities like a professional, you should go over a comprehensive wedding planning checklist and timetable. This will enable you to prioritize your objectives without becoming overburdened by them all at once.

Following a list for your wedding planning can ensure a seamless and largely stress-free approach and help you confirm that you aren’t missing anything important.

Conclusion

Planning a wedding can be time consuming but previous considerations come in handy. Make sure you consider the above mentioned factors before planning your big day.

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It is a man’s job to sexually escalate with a woman he is attracted to. As women control access to sex, he risks rejection in his quest to get it. Indeed, if women are appropriately discerning in their choice of sexual partner, most men will be rejected most of the time. Even hard core players […]

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It is a man’s job to sexually escalate with a woman he is attracted to. As women control access to sex, he risks rejection in his quest to get it. Indeed, if women are appropriately discerning in their choice of sexual partner, most men will be rejected most of the time. Even hard core players confess to a 90% failure rate. Their strategy is based on volume rather than quality of approaches.

Many women feel entitled to audition would-be lovers very selectively. If they experience a lack of attention – no guy shows up to audition – they blame men. If a guy does show up but decides not to stick around, he’s a douche. That’s not reasonable. You have no right to call a guy a jerk just because he doesn’t like you. Maybe you need to be more likable, or maybe you’re not compatible despite the initial chemistry.

The problem with this sense of entitlement is that it creates total passivity on the girl’s part. You don’t have very good control of your dating life if you are always waiting for a call or hoping the perfect guy is going to see you from across the room and say to his buddy, “See that girl in the red dress? I’m going to marry her.”

Usually this dilemma is addressed by encouraging women to make the first move or ask a guy out. In other words, we encourage the female to usurp the male role in hopes of nudging the process along. It seems only fair in the post-feminism era. This can certainly work, and in surveys a large majority of guys say they would love to be asked out by a woman. On the other hand, there are limitations to this approach, which runs counter to the natural order of things.

A much better approach is for the woman to do her job, which is to escalate emotionally. Women want emotional intimacy during sex, but they have sex before creating a foundation of emotional connection. Doing that work is your job, not his. If you hope for commitment, it makes no sense to leave it to chance, dreaming that a guy will fall for you based on your looks alone, or because you’re good in bed. A man will offer commitment when he is sufficiently emotionally invested to make the tradeoff to forfeit sexual variety. Women are the ones who have the power to create that investment.

How to Escalate Emotionally with a Man

1. Focus 100% of your sexual attraction on him.

Evolutionary psychologist David Buss surveyed American men to ask them which traits they consider most important for long-term mating. Out of 67 named traits, the number one priority for men was sexual faithfulness. (This is why guys are judgmental about your number – it’s a proxy for predicted future behavior.) Reader Lokland shared a valuable personal insight:

In the intial dating phase (say 6 months) the guy will be subconsciously (potentially consciously) looking for reasons to rule you out as a girlfriend.

One of those disqualifiers would definitely be trying to garner attention from other males. Call them faithfulness tests which utilize a pass-fail system initially.

Biologists believe that jealousy evolved as a way for males to prevent being cuckolded by other men. Jealousy reduces the likelihood that a woman will cheat. However, men hate feeling jealousy. Many will end a relationship with a woman they’re crazy about if they feel jealous and insecure about her level of interest.

Too often, women rely on this tactic to enliven a man’s interest. At best, it’s a short-term solution. Good relationships are never made this way. Men at HUS have said repeatedly that they want a woman to be hard to get for everyone else and easy to get for them alone. 

That means you need to go all in with exclusive interest before he does. He will only be exclusive with you after you have demonstrated that you are 100% exclusively focused on him.

2. Be consistently curious and interested to learn more about him.

Reader Hope shared some excellent ways that a woman can show genuine interest in one particular man.

You need to calibrate your level of interest to suit the progression of the relationship. Don’t get way ahead of him, just draw him out gradually from the start to make your interest in him as a person clear. As Hope said, there is a risk here:

The problem is, I think most women who do open up find that they are emotionally investing as well, which can lead to irrational decision-making/hamsterwheeling if the guy turns out to be a rotten egg. : /

This is where women risk rejection. You can minimize your risk by screening carefully for traits that indicate he is a good guy who is open to a relationship. As Hope pointed out in a comment, sociopaths don’t open up emotionally – if you’re showing clear signs of emotional investment and he’s holding you at arm’s length, drive on. Another warning sign is when his behavior is inconsistent. He’s warm and cuddly when the two of you are alone together, then you meet up in a group and he avoids eye contact. No bueno.

3. Ask for his advice, support or help.

One of the ways that women bond and establish new friendships is by revealing vulnerabilities to one another. When a woman shares a confidence or asks advice from another woman, she is signaling that she likes her, trusts her, and wants to increase the intimacy in the relationship. Often the other female will respond in kind. This works with men too.

It can be a problem you want to talk out, or a request that he help you put your IKEA furniture together. We all like to be needed, and we increase our emotional connection to others when we do kind things for them. He will probably like you more if you give him the opportunity to help you out.

4. Be generous and appreciative.

Men love to be appreciated for their efforts and for investing in a woman, including monetarily. Too often women take men for granted when it comes to paying, or doing them favors (see IKEA request above). Reader J shared some great suggestions:

I think a woman can and should do the following things if they are an honest representation of her feelings:

1. Say thank you. (Sounds like nothing, but it’s actually huge.)
2. Say she enjoys being with the guy, is having a good time with him.
3. Give honest compliments.
4. Reciprocate the cost of dates with small favors, gifts of food, handmade items, etc. (Bake a cake, knit a sweater.)
5. Give presents for occasions like birthdays and anniversaries (the latter only if it is not too cloying or desperate looking.)
6. Be physically affectionate in non-sexual ways (hold hands, place head on shoulders or chest, etc)
7. Small acts of consideration. Ever see Chaz Palmentieri’s A Bronx Tale? The young narrator is told by a mobster that the test of whether or not a woman is a keeper is if she leans over to unlock the driver’s side door after the guy lets her in on the passenger side.

IME, that’s the sort of thing that attracts guys who are looking for a wife or LTR.

5. Share a lust for life. 

Hope again:

One thing that really gets guys going is a girl who is positive, full of life, and laughs a lot. A pretty girl smiling a genuinely happy smile as she looks into his eyes for a long time — that makes a man melt. I’ve never had a guy compliment me on my frown, but I have been told that my face lights up when I smile. A positive girl makes people around her feel more energized, which is very attractive. No needy, clingy, bitter, depressed or unhappy vibes.

6. Let him know how much you like him, and how sexually attracted you are to  him.

Again, this is where the risk of rejection happens for women. That’s OK, because it’s your job in the mating dance. This is where you lead. Go out on a limb. Say what you need to say.  This is the one that sealed the deal for me with my husband, by the way.

Reader Anacaona shared a great example of this. She had a strategy for meeting a man, and when she found one she liked, she made it very clear. Even though he was in another country, she made it easy for him to want to commit to her.

I was honest about how things were progressing for me. I sent the first message online, and in February when we had accumulated several hours online I sent him a Valentine. I think that made my husband feel more confident to pursue me further, especially because  in the USA men are expected to give Valentines while it is more or less optional for women.

Also, I have high emotional intelligence so I discovered his likings and remembered them and asked him a lot about them. I also asked him about his old girlfriends. This is a good technique to connect with a man’s emotions because for most men, women in his past occupy a special place so sharing these important emotional milestones with him makes you special to him.

I never asked him for presents, except when he came to visit me the first time I told him that I wanted something he made himself and that I can carry with me at all times. He made me a silver ring that ended up becoming my engagement band. Once we decided he would come and visit, I asked to share expenses 50/50 because I knew it was a big expense for him.

As I mentioned earlier, he is going to escalate sexually. He is probably going to try for sex before your relationship is as emotionally intimate as you would like. This is the inevitable struggle between males and females. Again, you have a job to do. If you are nurturing the relationship emotionally, and feel that you are not yet ready to have sex, you should say so.

BUT. You should also tell him that the throbbing between your legs is about to drive you insane, and that you look forward to keeping him up all night. Also, as we’ve discussed here many times, he is not going to want to wait if other guys haven’t. If you are not a girl who does casual, make that clear, so that he knows there’s no price discrimination.

Although it’s obvious, it bears mentioning that there are ways to please him sexually as you become secure in his affection. Be very clear about how desirable you find him, and for heaven’s sake bow down and worship his cock. He will reward you emotionally.

By the way, a lot of what’s described in this post is what men call femininity.

Each sex has a job to do in finding the balance between sex and commitment. Embrace your role and your responsibility from the start. Nurture the emotional connection from the moment you meet someone. It’s never too early.

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It is a man’s job to sexually escalate with a woman he is attracted to. As women control access to sex, he risks rejection in his quest to get it. Indeed, if women are appropriately discerning in their choice of sexual partner, most men will be rejected most of the time. Even hard core players […]

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It is a man’s job to sexually escalate with a woman he is attracted to. As women control access to sex, he risks rejection in his quest to get it. Indeed, if women are appropriately discerning in their choice of sexual partner, most men will be rejected most of the time. Even hard core players confess to a 90% failure rate. Their strategy is based on volume rather than quality of approaches.

Many women feel entitled to audition would-be lovers very selectively. If they experience a lack of attention – no guy shows up to audition – they blame men. If a guy does show up but decides not to stick around, he’s a douche. That’s not reasonable. You have no right to call a guy a jerk just because he doesn’t like you. Maybe you need to be more likable, or maybe you’re not compatible despite the initial chemistry.

The problem with this sense of entitlement is that it creates total passivity on the girl’s part. You don’t have very good control of your dating life if you are always waiting for a call or hoping the perfect guy is going to see you from across the room and say to his buddy, “See that girl in the red dress? I’m going to marry her.”

Usually this dilemma is addressed by encouraging women to make the first move or ask a guy out. In other words, we encourage the female to usurp the male role in hopes of nudging the process along. It seems only fair in the post-feminism era. This can certainly work, and in surveys a large majority of guys say they would love to be asked out by a woman. On the other hand, there are limitations to this approach, which runs counter to the natural order of things.

A much better approach is for the woman to do her job, which is to escalate emotionally. Women want emotional intimacy during sex, but they have sex before creating a foundation of emotional connection. Doing that work is your job, not his. If you hope for commitment, it makes no sense to leave it to chance, dreaming that a guy will fall for you based on your looks alone, or because you’re good in bed. A man will offer commitment when he is sufficiently emotionally invested to make the tradeoff to forfeit sexual variety. Women are the ones who have the power to create that investment.

How to Escalate Emotionally with a Man

1. Focus 100% of your sexual attraction on him.

Evolutionary psychologist David Buss surveyed American men to ask them which traits they consider most important for long-term mating. Out of 67 named traits, the number one priority for men was sexual faithfulness. (This is why guys are judgmental about your number – it’s a proxy for predicted future behavior.) Reader Lokland shared a valuable personal insight:

In the intial dating phase (say 6 months) the guy will be subconsciously (potentially consciously) looking for reasons to rule you out as a girlfriend.

One of those disqualifiers would definitely be trying to garner attention from other males. Call them faithfulness tests which utilize a pass-fail system initially.

Biologists believe that jealousy evolved as a way for males to prevent being cuckolded by other men. Jealousy reduces the likelihood that a woman will cheat. However, men hate feeling jealousy. Many will end a relationship with a woman they’re crazy about if they feel jealous and insecure about her level of interest.

Too often, women rely on this tactic to enliven a man’s interest. At best, it’s a short-term solution. Good relationships are never made this way. Men at HUS have said repeatedly that they want a woman to be hard to get for everyone else and easy to get for them alone. 

That means you need to go all in with exclusive interest before he does. He will only be exclusive with you after you have demonstrated that you are 100% exclusively focused on him.

2. Be consistently curious and interested to learn more about him.

Reader Hope shared some excellent ways that a woman can show genuine interest in one particular man.

You need to calibrate your level of interest to suit the progression of the relationship. Don’t get way ahead of him, just draw him out gradually from the start to make your interest in him as a person clear. As Hope said, there is a risk here:

The problem is, I think most women who do open up find that they are emotionally investing as well, which can lead to irrational decision-making/hamsterwheeling if the guy turns out to be a rotten egg. : /

This is where women risk rejection. You can minimize your risk by screening carefully for traits that indicate he is a good guy who is open to a relationship. As Hope pointed out in a comment, sociopaths don’t open up emotionally – if you’re showing clear signs of emotional investment and he’s holding you at arm’s length, drive on. Another warning sign is when his behavior is inconsistent. He’s warm and cuddly when the two of you are alone together, then you meet up in a group and he avoids eye contact. No bueno.

3. Ask for his advice, support or help.

One of the ways that women bond and establish new friendships is by revealing vulnerabilities to one another. When a woman shares a confidence or asks advice from another woman, she is signaling that she likes her, trusts her, and wants to increase the intimacy in the relationship. Often the other female will respond in kind. This works with men too.

It can be a problem you want to talk out, or a request that he help you put your IKEA furniture together. We all like to be needed, and we increase our emotional connection to others when we do kind things for them. He will probably like you more if you give him the opportunity to help you out.

4. Be generous and appreciative.

Men love to be appreciated for their efforts and for investing in a woman, including monetarily. Too often women take men for granted when it comes to paying, or doing them favors (see IKEA request above). Reader J shared some great suggestions:

I think a woman can and should do the following things if they are an honest representation of her feelings:

1. Say thank you. (Sounds like nothing, but it’s actually huge.)
2. Say she enjoys being with the guy, is having a good time with him.
3. Give honest compliments.
4. Reciprocate the cost of dates with small favors, gifts of food, handmade items, etc. (Bake a cake, knit a sweater.)
5. Give presents for occasions like birthdays and anniversaries (the latter only if it is not too cloying or desperate looking.)
6. Be physically affectionate in non-sexual ways (hold hands, place head on shoulders or chest, etc)
7. Small acts of consideration. Ever see Chaz Palmentieri’s A Bronx Tale? The young narrator is told by a mobster that the test of whether or not a woman is a keeper is if she leans over to unlock the driver’s side door after the guy lets her in on the passenger side.

IME, that’s the sort of thing that attracts guys who are looking for a wife or LTR.

5. Share a lust for life. 

Hope again:

One thing that really gets guys going is a girl who is positive, full of life, and laughs a lot. A pretty girl smiling a genuinely happy smile as she looks into his eyes for a long time — that makes a man melt. I’ve never had a guy compliment me on my frown, but I have been told that my face lights up when I smile. A positive girl makes people around her feel more energized, which is very attractive. No needy, clingy, bitter, depressed or unhappy vibes.

6. Let him know how much you like him, and how sexually attracted you are to  him.

Again, this is where the risk of rejection happens for women. That’s OK, because it’s your job in the mating dance. This is where you lead. Go out on a limb. Say what you need to say.  This is the one that sealed the deal for me with my husband, by the way.

Reader Anacaona shared a great example of this. She had a strategy for meeting a man, and when she found one she liked, she made it very clear. Even though he was in another country, she made it easy for him to want to commit to her.

I was honest about how things were progressing for me. I sent the first message online, and in February when we had accumulated several hours online I sent him a Valentine. I think that made my husband feel more confident to pursue me further, especially because  in the USA men are expected to give Valentines while it is more or less optional for women.

Also, I have high emotional intelligence so I discovered his likings and remembered them and asked him a lot about them. I also asked him about his old girlfriends. This is a good technique to connect with a man’s emotions because for most men, women in his past occupy a special place so sharing these important emotional milestones with him makes you special to him.

I never asked him for presents, except when he came to visit me the first time I told him that I wanted something he made himself and that I can carry with me at all times. He made me a silver ring that ended up becoming my engagement band. Once we decided he would come and visit, I asked to share expenses 50/50 because I knew it was a big expense for him.

As I mentioned earlier, he is going to escalate sexually. He is probably going to try for sex before your relationship is as emotionally intimate as you would like. This is the inevitable struggle between males and females. Again, you have a job to do. If you are nurturing the relationship emotionally, and feel that you are not yet ready to have sex, you should say so.

BUT. You should also tell him that the throbbing between your legs is about to drive you insane, and that you look forward to keeping him up all night. Also, as we’ve discussed here many times, he is not going to want to wait if other guys haven’t. If you are not a girl who does casual, make that clear, so that he knows there’s no price discrimination.

Although it’s obvious, it bears mentioning that there are ways to please him sexually as you become secure in his affection. Be very clear about how desirable you find him, and for heaven’s sake bow down and worship his cock. He will reward you emotionally.

By the way, a lot of what’s described in this post is what men call femininity.

Each sex has a job to do in finding the balance between sex and commitment. Embrace your role and your responsibility from the start. Nurture the emotional connection from the moment you meet someone. It’s never too early.

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In any discussion of what women want, no trait gets more attention than social status. Acknowledged as a key female attraction cue, it’s also frequently referred to as social dominance. It’s easy to see why. One need only look around to see that men in positions of leadership and social dominance are highly desired by […]

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In any discussion of what women want, no trait gets more attention than social status. Acknowledged as a key female attraction cue, it’s also frequently referred to as social dominance. It’s easy to see why. One need only look around to see that men in positions of leadership and social dominance are highly desired by women. Ogi Ogas, in his bestselling book A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire, confirms its universal appeal:

Study after study has demonstrated the erotic appeal of male dominance. Women prefer the voices of dominant men, the scent of dominant men, the movement and gait of dominant men, and the facial features of dominant men…Scientists believe that the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex may be responsible for processing cues indicating social status or dominance, and it appears that almost all female brains are susceptible to dominance cues.

Furthermore, social dominance is not conferred by women, it’s awarded by other men in a process of intrasexual competition for dominance and leadership. Men continually compete for dominance in social interactions with one another. The men who achieve the greatest rank among their peers may then display that dominance as a powerful advantage in attracting women for sex.

On the other hand, women associate very masculine faces with negative traits such as coldness and dishonesty. Women also perceive very dominant males as more likely to cheat and divert resources away from the family. This may be of little or no concern to women who prioritize short-term mating. For long-term mating, however, the female is faced with the challenge of optimizing the combination of leadership and provider traits.

Until now, scientists have not understood how humans evolved to prioritize pair-bonding over promiscuity, a critical development that laid the foundation for the modern family. A new study proposes that it’s entirely attributable to female choice. Women evolved to prefer cooperative, emotionally nurturing providers over physically dominant males:

Pair bonding supplanted promiscuity in human evolution when faithful females began choosing good providers as mates, a study finds. Evolutionary biologists have struggled to explain how pair bonding and the nuclear family structure took root in humans, as primate groups typically establish dominance-driven hierarchies that restrict mating privileges to a few high-ranking males.

…Using simple mathematical models, Sergey Gavrilets revealed that the most commonly proposed theories for human pair bonding are biologically unrealistic. Then, incorporating among other factors the evolution of female choice and faithfulness, the researcher devised a model showing how pair bonding can represent a key adaptation underscoring the uniqueness of human evolution.

The author proposes that low-ranked males likely began attracting mates by focusing almost exclusively on becoming the best providers, a strategy which had the added benefits of enhancing female fertility and bolstering the survival of their offspring. Over evolutionary time, the model indicates that all but the highest-ranking males would shift to provisioning females who had evolved a high sense of fidelity. The findings reveal that female choice factored critically in human evolution.

That begs the obvious question – if women have evolved to prefer men who provide both intangible and tangible resources (dads) over less agreeable or nurturing mates (cads), why does research show that women reward dominant displays?

Why do women prefer dominant men?

Since the 1987 landmark study revealing the female preference for dominance in males, scholars have theorized that women would have preferred men most likely to provide them with resources such as food and protection from danger. In addition, the “sexy sons” hypothesis states that women would have been eager to pass along dominant genes to their own offspring.

Sadalla, Kenrick, and Vershure (1987) published evidence indicating that women prefer men who are high in dominance over men who are low in dominance as potential dates (i.e., potential short-term relationship partners) and rate them as more attractive. 

It seems likely that Erik von Markovik, aka Mystery, who studied evolutionary psychology to codify Game, would have relied heavily on this study. Since his focus was on short-term rather than long-term mating, this research finding would have proved valuable and highly relevant to his efforts.

However, Snyder, Kirkpatrick, and Barrett (2008) questioned the validity of the original findings. They observed a lack of consensus among scholars regarding what comprises social dominance. They also wondered how female preferences differed for casual sex vs. marriage:

Since [Sadalla et al, 1987], despite numerous studies pointing to limitations of this result, it seems that a simplistic version of their conclusion— that ‘‘women prefer dominant mates’’—has become conventional wisdom in psychology and related fields.

We wish to reopen the analysis of this mate preference phenomenon for scholars of romantic relationships with the following goals.

First, we intend to clarify and reexamine Sadalla and colleagues’ (1987) initial findings. In the pursuit of this goal, we argue that there is a problematic lack of consensus regarding what dominance as a construct is and suggest that subsequent attempts to clarify Sadalla and colleagues’ work (Jensen-Campbell, Graziano, & West, 1995) were insufficient.

Second, we provide evidence suggesting that women’s preferences in regard to status are contingent on several factors, including (a) the distinction between prestige-based and dominance-based status, (b) the social context in which the behavior is observed, and (c) the particular dimension of desirability being assessed.

In their published paper The Dominance Dilemma, they shared results from three studies conducted with female students at UCLA and the College of William and Mary. For the purposes of these studies, they defined dominance as “forced or coerced leadership,” characterized by aggression and other domineering tactics in the pursuit of agentic self-interest. Dominance leads subordinates to submit to a dominant male via intimidation or fear. They tend to maintain greater physical distance from the dominant male and maintain less eye contact.

Conversely, prestige is defined as “freely conferred status” by peers in recognition of special abilities and skills. Peers benefit from association with skilled individuals, as it is more efficient to copy their expertise than engage in trial and error learning. The prestigious individual is honored, revered and praised by subordinates, and “respond[s] with self-deprecation. Prestigious individuals freely offer information and counsel. Because of this free exchange of status for information, prestigious individuals may appear to be more kind, generous, and willing to help than dominant individuals.”

The research by Snyder et al revealed several key findings:

  1. When given the choice between dominance and prestige, women demonstrate a clear preference for a high-prestige male over a high-dominance male.
  2. Women prefer low-dominance males for both long-term and short-term mating, but the preference is stronger when seeking a long-term partner.
  3. Women prefer high prestige partners over low prestige partners, and this preference is also stronger for long-term vs. short-term mating.
  4. Women find dominant behaviors attractive in the context of athletic competition, but penalize them for both short- and long-term mating.

In this light, distinguishing between dominance and prestige is essential to enhancing our understanding of female sexuality and attraction. Overall, the research suggests that women are not attracted to disagreeable males, i.e. jerks and assholes, they’re attracted to men who earn the respect and admiration of other men, and who display kindness and generosity. The degree to which women penalize dominance vs. prestige is contextual, based on their own mating priorities, i.e. short-term vs. long-term.

It should be noted that dominance and prestige are alternate, but not entirely mutually exclusive, pathways to social status. Ironically, fraternity membership and athletics may connote prestige rather than dominance, even as its members often prioritize casual sex and engage in dominant behaviors, particularly towards women.

Fraternities, which generally advertise themselves as offering both male camaraderie and access to high value females, are presumably selective in identifying males who can uphold or even improve the organization’s reputation. They court these males energetically, even arranging hookups for them in some cases.

The school athlete is perhaps best positioned to attract his female classmates, as he is rewarded with prestige for teamwork and excites female interest by displaying dominant behavior on the field.

Unfortunately for women, a male’s having achieved a high level of prestige is no guarantee of agreeable behavior with the opposite sex, particularly before he is fully mature. Indeed, he will be influenced heavily by his peer culture, which tends to prioritize douchiness, i.e. dominance, over “good guy” honesty and self-deprecation.

The implications for women are clear:

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In any discussion of what women want, no trait gets more attention than social status. Acknowledged as a key female attraction cue, it’s also frequently referred to as social dominance. It’s easy to see why. One need only look around to see that men in positions of leadership and social dominance are highly desired by […]

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In any discussion of what women want, no trait gets more attention than social status. Acknowledged as a key female attraction cue, it’s also frequently referred to as social dominance. It’s easy to see why. One need only look around to see that men in positions of leadership and social dominance are highly desired by women. Ogi Ogas, in his bestselling book A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire, confirms its universal appeal:

Study after study has demonstrated the erotic appeal of male dominance. Women prefer the voices of dominant men, the scent of dominant men, the movement and gait of dominant men, and the facial features of dominant men…Scientists believe that the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex may be responsible for processing cues indicating social status or dominance, and it appears that almost all female brains are susceptible to dominance cues.

Furthermore, social dominance is not conferred by women, it’s awarded by other men in a process of intrasexual competition for dominance and leadership. Men continually compete for dominance in social interactions with one another. The men who achieve the greatest rank among their peers may then display that dominance as a powerful advantage in attracting women for sex.

On the other hand, women associate very masculine faces with negative traits such as coldness and dishonesty. Women also perceive very dominant males as more likely to cheat and divert resources away from the family. This may be of little or no concern to women who prioritize short-term mating. For long-term mating, however, the female is faced with the challenge of optimizing the combination of leadership and provider traits.

Until now, scientists have not understood how humans evolved to prioritize pair-bonding over promiscuity, a critical development that laid the foundation for the modern family. A new study proposes that it’s entirely attributable to female choice. Women evolved to prefer cooperative, emotionally nurturing providers over physically dominant males:

Pair bonding supplanted promiscuity in human evolution when faithful females began choosing good providers as mates, a study finds. Evolutionary biologists have struggled to explain how pair bonding and the nuclear family structure took root in humans, as primate groups typically establish dominance-driven hierarchies that restrict mating privileges to a few high-ranking males.

…Using simple mathematical models, Sergey Gavrilets revealed that the most commonly proposed theories for human pair bonding are biologically unrealistic. Then, incorporating among other factors the evolution of female choice and faithfulness, the researcher devised a model showing how pair bonding can represent a key adaptation underscoring the uniqueness of human evolution.

The author proposes that low-ranked males likely began attracting mates by focusing almost exclusively on becoming the best providers, a strategy which had the added benefits of enhancing female fertility and bolstering the survival of their offspring. Over evolutionary time, the model indicates that all but the highest-ranking males would shift to provisioning females who had evolved a high sense of fidelity. The findings reveal that female choice factored critically in human evolution.

That begs the obvious question – if women have evolved to prefer men who provide both intangible and tangible resources (dads) over less agreeable or nurturing mates (cads), why does research show that women reward dominant displays?

Why do women prefer dominant men?

Since the 1987 landmark study revealing the female preference for dominance in males, scholars have theorized that women would have preferred men most likely to provide them with resources such as food and protection from danger. In addition, the “sexy sons” hypothesis states that women would have been eager to pass along dominant genes to their own offspring.

Sadalla, Kenrick, and Vershure (1987) published evidence indicating that women prefer men who are high in dominance over men who are low in dominance as potential dates (i.e., potential short-term relationship partners) and rate them as more attractive. 

It seems likely that Erik von Markovik, aka Mystery, who studied evolutionary psychology to codify Game, would have relied heavily on this study. Since his focus was on short-term rather than long-term mating, this research finding would have proved valuable and highly relevant to his efforts.

However, Snyder, Kirkpatrick, and Barrett (2008) questioned the validity of the original findings. They observed a lack of consensus among scholars regarding what comprises social dominance. They also wondered how female preferences differed for casual sex vs. marriage:

Since [Sadalla et al, 1987], despite numerous studies pointing to limitations of this result, it seems that a simplistic version of their conclusion— that ‘‘women prefer dominant mates’’—has become conventional wisdom in psychology and related fields.

We wish to reopen the analysis of this mate preference phenomenon for scholars of romantic relationships with the following goals.

First, we intend to clarify and reexamine Sadalla and colleagues’ (1987) initial findings. In the pursuit of this goal, we argue that there is a problematic lack of consensus regarding what dominance as a construct is and suggest that subsequent attempts to clarify Sadalla and colleagues’ work (Jensen-Campbell, Graziano, & West, 1995) were insufficient.

Second, we provide evidence suggesting that women’s preferences in regard to status are contingent on several factors, including (a) the distinction between prestige-based and dominance-based status, (b) the social context in which the behavior is observed, and (c) the particular dimension of desirability being assessed.

In their published paper The Dominance Dilemma, they shared results from three studies conducted with female students at UCLA and the College of William and Mary. For the purposes of these studies, they defined dominance as “forced or coerced leadership,” characterized by aggression and other domineering tactics in the pursuit of agentic self-interest. Dominance leads subordinates to submit to a dominant male via intimidation or fear. They tend to maintain greater physical distance from the dominant male and maintain less eye contact.

Conversely, prestige is defined as “freely conferred status” by peers in recognition of special abilities and skills. Peers benefit from association with skilled individuals, as it is more efficient to copy their expertise than engage in trial and error learning. The prestigious individual is honored, revered and praised by subordinates, and “respond[s] with self-deprecation. Prestigious individuals freely offer information and counsel. Because of this free exchange of status for information, prestigious individuals may appear to be more kind, generous, and willing to help than dominant individuals.”

The research by Snyder et al revealed several key findings:

  1. When given the choice between dominance and prestige, women demonstrate a clear preference for a high-prestige male over a high-dominance male.
  2. Women prefer low-dominance males for both long-term and short-term mating, but the preference is stronger when seeking a long-term partner.
  3. Women prefer high prestige partners over low prestige partners, and this preference is also stronger for long-term vs. short-term mating.
  4. Women find dominant behaviors attractive in the context of athletic competition, but penalize them for both short- and long-term mating.

In this light, distinguishing between dominance and prestige is essential to enhancing our understanding of female sexuality and attraction. Overall, the research suggests that women are not attracted to disagreeable males, i.e. jerks and assholes, they’re attracted to men who earn the respect and admiration of other men, and who display kindness and generosity. The degree to which women penalize dominance vs. prestige is contextual, based on their own mating priorities, i.e. short-term vs. long-term.

It should be noted that dominance and prestige are alternate, but not entirely mutually exclusive, pathways to social status. Ironically, fraternity membership and athletics may connote prestige rather than dominance, even as its members often prioritize casual sex and engage in dominant behaviors, particularly towards women.

Fraternities, which generally advertise themselves as offering both male camaraderie and access to high value females, are presumably selective in identifying males who can uphold or even improve the organization’s reputation. They court these males energetically, even arranging hookups for them in some cases.

The school athlete is perhaps best positioned to attract his female classmates, as he is rewarded with prestige for teamwork and excites female interest by displaying dominant behavior on the field.

Unfortunately for women, a male’s having achieved a high level of prestige is no guarantee of agreeable behavior with the opposite sex, particularly before he is fully mature. Indeed, he will be influenced heavily by his peer culture, which tends to prioritize douchiness, i.e. dominance, over “good guy” honesty and self-deprecation.

The implications for women are clear:

The post How Women Really Feel About Male Dominance appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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If you are newly married, you must both work at maintaining and strengthening your connection. We’ve many couples divorcing months or years after their marriage; the main reason is that many stop dating. This creates a gap in their marriage as each person is left to their own devices. Don’t let this be you. Always […]

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If you are newly married, you must both work at maintaining and strengthening your connection. We’ve many couples divorcing months or years after their marriage; the main reason is that many stop dating. This creates a gap in their marriage as each person is left to their own devices.

Don’t let this be you. Always aim to do fun and challenging activities together. This will strengthen your bond and ensure that you are in tune with your partner in all aspects and will never lack things to keep each other entertained.

9 Activities Newly Married Couples Should Do to Strengthen Their Bond

Couples should discuss and ascertain which activities they love to do together. Don’t be that couple that only goes out to dinner or movies; seek thrilling and fun activities that can help you create a stronger bond. And don’t be afraid of trying new adventures.

Biking

Cycling is a fun activity with your partner, especially if you ride in the mountains or deep in the forest. Here you can race each other and teach each other new tricks. Your fun will be doubled, and you will be more comfortable with a full-suspension electric mountain bike. This is because it absorbs all the shocks from bumps, ensuring you can ride faster and for an extended period without getting tired.

Yoga

Try yoga if you are looking for a chill activity that will still get your blood pumping and help you get fitter. Many people take yoga as a simple exercise, but the poses will have you sweating buckets and improve your balance.

Yoga also helps you stay grounded as it encourages mindfulness, thus enabling you to form deeper connections with your Partner on an emotional level. Initially, you can enroll in a class, but after you get better, you can practice at home.

Traveling

Is there anything better than discovering new places with your better half? Create a traveling budget and make time to get out and see new places. Travel creates excitement and is a great way to maintain an extraordinary relationship. It also gives you topics to talk about when you are back home.

You can start by exploring your country before venturing into international travel. This gives you enough time to get your finances organized. It also lets you in on some fantastic and scenic spots in your country.

Volunteering

Having a partner that loves to give back to society is mind-blowing as it lets you bask in their giving nature. And you can add to it by joining charity drives. Volunteering together helps you form a stronger bond as it’s a meaningful activity that teaches you both to be grateful for what you have.

Outdoor Adventures

Seek out adventurous activities together. Instead of staying in this weekend, drive to the nearest ziplining or bungee jumping spot. This helps you conquer fear, and the thrill of falling down a cliff gives you an adrenaline rush.

Another outdoor adventure you can engage in is rock climbing. However, it would be best to learn using an indoor rock climbing arena before venturing outside. Don’t worry; you will have a harness that protects you even if you miss a step. So before starting, ensure your harness is secured correctly.

You can also go skiing during the winter. Nothing is as freeing as sliding down the slopes on your skis with your Partner.

Festivals

Couples should also make time to attend festivals. Many festivals in America celebrate different cultures, art, and music. Research the time and location, book your trip and go have fun. Music festivals are the most popular as various artists always host performances.

Other popular festivals you should make a point of attending include:

Dancing

Dancing is a great way to learn about your partner and will help you meet other couples. Taking a dance class once a week helps break your boring routine and get to hold your Partner as you learn different movements. It’s a great way to work out and forces you to make time for each other.

Dancing encourages spontaneity as you can do it anywhere. You may be sitting at home, and your favorite song comes up, so you both stand and start moving, creating a romantic moment.

It will also help you increase your social circle, and it’s something that will never go away, even with kids in the picture. And it also forces you to embrace the power of touch, which is crucial in every relationship.

Exercising

Research shows that couples that exercise together have a more fulfilling relationship. Working out together ensures that you create a deeper emotional connection as you both need to be in tune with your movements.

When you exercise, you will become more fit. And for this, your partner will be happy for your achievements, further enhancing your relationship by seeing them happy for your success.

If you start exercising, we all know how hard it is to stay consistent or eat healthily. But, when your partner is your biggest cheerleader, you will push on till you make it a lifestyle. You will also have fun and stay fit together.

Go to a Theme Park

Many assume that a theme park is meant for kids, but adults are also kids at heart. So, plan a theme park date with your partner, go on rides, and scream your lungs out. Don’t try to act like an adult; you are there to have fun. And remember to walk through a haunted house.

Final Thoughts

Couples should strive to make their relationships last by creating stronger connections. And this can be achieved if they do things like dancing, hiking, biking, attending festivals, or visiting theme parks. They should aim to have fun while also challenging themselves.

The post Amazing Things New Couples Can Do Together to Strengthen Their Bond appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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If you are newly married, you must both work at maintaining and strengthening your connection. We’ve many couples divorcing months or years after their marriage; the main reason is that many stop dating. This creates a gap in their marriage as each person is left to their own devices. Don’t let this be you. Always […]

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If you are newly married, you must both work at maintaining and strengthening your connection. We’ve many couples divorcing months or years after their marriage; the main reason is that many stop dating. This creates a gap in their marriage as each person is left to their own devices.

Don’t let this be you. Always aim to do fun and challenging activities together. This will strengthen your bond and ensure that you are in tune with your partner in all aspects and will never lack things to keep each other entertained.

9 Activities Newly Married Couples Should Do to Strengthen Their Bond

Couples should discuss and ascertain which activities they love to do together. Don’t be that couple that only goes out to dinner or movies; seek thrilling and fun activities that can help you create a stronger bond. And don’t be afraid of trying new adventures.

Biking

Cycling is a fun activity with your partner, especially if you ride in the mountains or deep in the forest. Here you can race each other and teach each other new tricks. Your fun will be doubled, and you will be more comfortable with a full-suspension electric mountain bike. This is because it absorbs all the shocks from bumps, ensuring you can ride faster and for an extended period without getting tired.

Yoga

Try yoga if you are looking for a chill activity that will still get your blood pumping and help you get fitter. Many people take yoga as a simple exercise, but the poses will have you sweating buckets and improve your balance.

Yoga also helps you stay grounded as it encourages mindfulness, thus enabling you to form deeper connections with your Partner on an emotional level. Initially, you can enroll in a class, but after you get better, you can practice at home.

Traveling

Is there anything better than discovering new places with your better half? Create a traveling budget and make time to get out and see new places. Travel creates excitement and is a great way to maintain an extraordinary relationship. It also gives you topics to talk about when you are back home.

You can start by exploring your country before venturing into international travel. This gives you enough time to get your finances organized. It also lets you in on some fantastic and scenic spots in your country.

Volunteering

Having a partner that loves to give back to society is mind-blowing as it lets you bask in their giving nature. And you can add to it by joining charity drives. Volunteering together helps you form a stronger bond as it’s a meaningful activity that teaches you both to be grateful for what you have.

Outdoor Adventures

Seek out adventurous activities together. Instead of staying in this weekend, drive to the nearest ziplining or bungee jumping spot. This helps you conquer fear, and the thrill of falling down a cliff gives you an adrenaline rush.

Another outdoor adventure you can engage in is rock climbing. However, it would be best to learn using an indoor rock climbing arena before venturing outside. Don’t worry; you will have a harness that protects you even if you miss a step. So before starting, ensure your harness is secured correctly.

You can also go skiing during the winter. Nothing is as freeing as sliding down the slopes on your skis with your Partner.

Festivals

Couples should also make time to attend festivals. Many festivals in America celebrate different cultures, art, and music. Research the time and location, book your trip and go have fun. Music festivals are the most popular as various artists always host performances.

Other popular festivals you should make a point of attending include:

Dancing

Dancing is a great way to learn about your partner and will help you meet other couples. Taking a dance class once a week helps break your boring routine and get to hold your Partner as you learn different movements. It’s a great way to work out and forces you to make time for each other.

Dancing encourages spontaneity as you can do it anywhere. You may be sitting at home, and your favorite song comes up, so you both stand and start moving, creating a romantic moment.

It will also help you increase your social circle, and it’s something that will never go away, even with kids in the picture. And it also forces you to embrace the power of touch, which is crucial in every relationship.

Exercising

Research shows that couples that exercise together have a more fulfilling relationship. Working out together ensures that you create a deeper emotional connection as you both need to be in tune with your movements.

When you exercise, you will become more fit. And for this, your partner will be happy for your achievements, further enhancing your relationship by seeing them happy for your success.

If you start exercising, we all know how hard it is to stay consistent or eat healthily. But, when your partner is your biggest cheerleader, you will push on till you make it a lifestyle. You will also have fun and stay fit together.

Go to a Theme Park

Many assume that a theme park is meant for kids, but adults are also kids at heart. So, plan a theme park date with your partner, go on rides, and scream your lungs out. Don’t try to act like an adult; you are there to have fun. And remember to walk through a haunted house.

Final Thoughts

Couples should strive to make their relationships last by creating stronger connections. And this can be achieved if they do things like dancing, hiking, biking, attending festivals, or visiting theme parks. They should aim to have fun while also challenging themselves.

The post Amazing Things New Couples Can Do Together to Strengthen Their Bond appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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If you are single and looking for love, you’ve probably tried a lot of unconventional things. Think about dating someone who is far from your “type,” going on blind dates, speed dating, and repeatedly swiping left (and right) on Tinder, even after making a promise to yourself not to. However, these techniques pale in comparison […]

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If you are single and looking for love, you’ve probably tried a lot of unconventional things. Think about dating someone who is far from your “type,” going on blind dates, speed dating, and repeatedly swiping left (and right) on Tinder, even after making a promise to yourself not to.

However, these techniques pale in comparison to some novel and bizarre things people do in search of the one. Men and women are going out of their way to meet their mates. Here are some unconventional ways to meet the person of your dreams.

Take It to Instagram

Some dating apps match you with people who share your interests and preferences based on basic information and a few of your Instagram photos. Who would have imagined that your love of filtered sandwiches could lead you to the love of your life? Posting pictures of your life could also improve your chances of meeting the right person.

Gene Matching

All relationships need some chemistry. However, some dating apps take it one step further and choose to let science do the work for you. They send you a DNA test in the mail. You need to spit into a tube, return it to the business, and have it forwarded to a lab.

Serotonin levels and specific immune system genes are examined. Both of them are thought to be important determinants of a couple’s long-term compatibility. You can browse prospective matches and complete your online dating profile. Kind of gives spit-swapping when dating a whole new meaning, huh?

Create a Custom Poster

Consider creating an eye-catching poster that will attract the person of your dreams. You don’t need professional help to create an exciting design. You can create a custom poster for your social media pages or party.

Pheromone Parties

Are you over the bar scene? You can always give Pheromone Parties a try. They seem to be becoming increasingly common in London. In essence, it’s speed dating but with a lot of smelling.

Chemical elements called pheromones leak from your skin when you perspire. Some researchers contend that pheromones influence our unconscious attraction to certain people and that everyone’s distinctive smell provides information about their genes.

Visitors are generally required to bring a t-shirt that they slept in for three nights to the party to record their “odor print.” The number allocated to each bag allows guests to identify which bag they prefer before speaking with that person. It may be stinky, but it is far from boring.

Naked Dating

The couples meet naked for the first time. Naked dating stems from VH1’s newest reality series, Dating Naked. The intention is to be more forthright and honest, but you can’t deny that it is also terribly awkward.

 Christina “Wee Wee” Porcelli, one of the show’s original contestants, actually met her partner while competing!

Social Media Crowdsourcing

You can always ask social media to put you back in touch if you’ve ever missed a chance to interact with someone you find attractive.

 The New York Daily News recently published two separate stories about couples who met but didn’t exchange phone numbers before turning to Twitter for help. First, Emily Domesek tweeted that she had met her “future spouse” while traveling on an American Airlines flight.

She didn’t get his entire name, so she hoped Twitter would act as her wingman (she eventually connected with him through a mutual acquaintance.)

Are you looking for the person of your dreams? You never know when or where you could meet them. There is someone for everyone; sometimes, you have to look in the strangest places.

There has never been a simpler time to find true love. You no longer need to be at the right place at the right time to meet someone you click with. You can quickly locate people who are suitable with you using online dating and a little bit of science. You can discover an enduring love if you’re willing to put yourself out there a little.

The post 6 Unconventional Ways to Find the Person of Your Dreams appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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If you are single and looking for love, you’ve probably tried a lot of unconventional things. Think about dating someone who is far from your “type,” going on blind dates, speed dating, and repeatedly swiping left (and right) on Tinder, even after making a promise to yourself not to. However, these techniques pale in comparison […]

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If you are single and looking for love, you’ve probably tried a lot of unconventional things. Think about dating someone who is far from your “type,” going on blind dates, speed dating, and repeatedly swiping left (and right) on Tinder, even after making a promise to yourself not to.

However, these techniques pale in comparison to some novel and bizarre things people do in search of the one. Men and women are going out of their way to meet their mates. Here are some unconventional ways to meet the person of your dreams.

Take It to Instagram

Some dating apps match you with people who share your interests and preferences based on basic information and a few of your Instagram photos. Who would have imagined that your love of filtered sandwiches could lead you to the love of your life? Posting pictures of your life could also improve your chances of meeting the right person.

Gene Matching

All relationships need some chemistry. However, some dating apps take it one step further and choose to let science do the work for you. They send you a DNA test in the mail. You need to spit into a tube, return it to the business, and have it forwarded to a lab.

Serotonin levels and specific immune system genes are examined. Both of them are thought to be important determinants of a couple’s long-term compatibility. You can browse prospective matches and complete your online dating profile. Kind of gives spit-swapping when dating a whole new meaning, huh?

Create a Custom Poster

Consider creating an eye-catching poster that will attract the person of your dreams. You don’t need professional help to create an exciting design. You can create a custom poster for your social media pages or party.

Pheromone Parties

Are you over the bar scene? You can always give Pheromone Parties a try. They seem to be becoming increasingly common in London. In essence, it’s speed dating but with a lot of smelling.

Chemical elements called pheromones leak from your skin when you perspire. Some researchers contend that pheromones influence our unconscious attraction to certain people and that everyone’s distinctive smell provides information about their genes.

Visitors are generally required to bring a t-shirt that they slept in for three nights to the party to record their “odor print.” The number allocated to each bag allows guests to identify which bag they prefer before speaking with that person. It may be stinky, but it is far from boring.

Naked Dating

The couples meet naked for the first time. Naked dating stems from VH1’s newest reality series, Dating Naked. The intention is to be more forthright and honest, but you can’t deny that it is also terribly awkward.

 Christina “Wee Wee” Porcelli, one of the show’s original contestants, actually met her partner while competing!

Social Media Crowdsourcing

You can always ask social media to put you back in touch if you’ve ever missed a chance to interact with someone you find attractive.

 The New York Daily News recently published two separate stories about couples who met but didn’t exchange phone numbers before turning to Twitter for help. First, Emily Domesek tweeted that she had met her “future spouse” while traveling on an American Airlines flight.

She didn’t get his entire name, so she hoped Twitter would act as her wingman (she eventually connected with him through a mutual acquaintance.)

Are you looking for the person of your dreams? You never know when or where you could meet them. There is someone for everyone; sometimes, you have to look in the strangest places.

There has never been a simpler time to find true love. You no longer need to be at the right place at the right time to meet someone you click with. You can quickly locate people who are suitable with you using online dating and a little bit of science. You can discover an enduring love if you’re willing to put yourself out there a little.

The post 6 Unconventional Ways to Find the Person of Your Dreams appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Marriages can be beautiful and fulfilling experiences if they are well-timed and built on mutual respect. Unfortunately, sometimes these relationships fizzle out, often resulting in divorce. But rarely do couples move from “till death do us part” to “it’s over for us” overnight. Instead, divorce signs often start to show in small ways that can […]

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Marriages can be beautiful and fulfilling experiences if they are well-timed and built on mutual respect.

Unfortunately, sometimes these relationships fizzle out, often resulting in divorce.

But rarely do couples move from “till death do us part” to “it’s over for us” overnight. Instead, divorce signs often start to show in small ways that can be difficult to recognize.

If you are concerned your marriage may be heading for divorce, here are six red flags to watch out for.

1.   Poor Communication

Effective communication in marriage is significant for staying connected, solving disputes, and building trust. Communication is more than just the exchange of words. It’s listening to each other’s perspectives and having open discussions without anger or resentment.

If speaking to your partner has started feeling complicated or superficial, it may be an early warning sign of a problematic relationship.

2.   Loss of Intimacy and Affection

Intimacy and affection are two critical ingredients in any successful relationship. Intimate couples enjoy their time together and feel safe and emotionally secure in their love.

If your partner no longer cares about your emotional needs or desires, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Common signs of fading intimacy include a lack of physical touch, verbal and physical fights, no sex, and an overall lack of romantic attention.

If not fixed timely, the lack of intimacy in a relationship may lead to infidelity as one or both partners start seeking satisfaction elsewhere.

3.   Unhealthy Conflict Resolution Skills

Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. However, how a couple handles their arguments and solves problems can be a vital indicator of the health of their relationship.

Healthy couples can solve conflicts effectively and manage negative behaviors without resorting to violence. On the other hand, if you and your partner are always yelling at each other any time you disagree, your marriage is probably headed for the rocks.

4.   Secretive Behaviors

Your partner is your first friend, and a good friendship is built on honesty and trust. Friends always share what’s going on in their lives and support one another through difficult times.

However, if your lover starts to keep secrets, it might be a sign that they no longer trust you. So, watch out for a spouse who hides their phone, regularly deletes text messages, locks their social media accounts, or gets angry if you catch them chatting with someone else.

5.   Lack of Respect

Both you and your partner have values and beliefs that are important to you. You expect your spouse to respect these values and accept them even when they conflict with their own.

In most crumbling marriages, however, disrespect is a recurring theme. It is common for disrespectful spouses to belittle their partners in front of others, criticize their appearances publicly, or even scorn them in the presence of kids.

6.   No More Caring

Couples who love deeply will care for each other through thick and thin. They will defend one another against criticism and show unwavering support when any one of them is in need.

If your once-loving partner suddenly stops caring about the little things they did to make you happy, such as cooking your favorite meal or taking you out on a date, it could be a sign of trouble in paradise.

If Nothing Seems to Work, Divorce As Amicably as Possible

If all these signs make sense to you and you can’t figure out what to do to save your marriage, it may be time to consider divorce. However, if you choose this route, you must work with a top divorce lawyer to make the process seamless.

Why Hiring a Divorce Lawyer Is So Important

An experienced divorce attorney can help you reach an amicable agreement with your spouse, so you can protect your assets and get what you deserve. Also, if you are worried about your children’s welfare, your attorney can advise about the best custody arrangements for you and your ex.

The post 6 Red Flags That Suggest Your Marriage is Heading for a Divorce appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Marriages can be beautiful and fulfilling experiences if they are well-timed and built on mutual respect. Unfortunately, sometimes these relationships fizzle out, often resulting in divorce. But rarely do couples move from “till death do us part” to “it’s over for us” overnight. Instead, divorce signs often start to show in small ways that can […]

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Marriages can be beautiful and fulfilling experiences if they are well-timed and built on mutual respect.

Unfortunately, sometimes these relationships fizzle out, often resulting in divorce.

But rarely do couples move from “till death do us part” to “it’s over for us” overnight. Instead, divorce signs often start to show in small ways that can be difficult to recognize.

If you are concerned your marriage may be heading for divorce, here are six red flags to watch out for.

1.   Poor Communication

Effective communication in marriage is significant for staying connected, solving disputes, and building trust. Communication is more than just the exchange of words. It’s listening to each other’s perspectives and having open discussions without anger or resentment.

If speaking to your partner has started feeling complicated or superficial, it may be an early warning sign of a problematic relationship.

2.   Loss of Intimacy and Affection

Intimacy and affection are two critical ingredients in any successful relationship. Intimate couples enjoy their time together and feel safe and emotionally secure in their love.

If your partner no longer cares about your emotional needs or desires, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Common signs of fading intimacy include a lack of physical touch, verbal and physical fights, no sex, and an overall lack of romantic attention.

If not fixed timely, the lack of intimacy in a relationship may lead to infidelity as one or both partners start seeking satisfaction elsewhere.

3.   Unhealthy Conflict Resolution Skills

Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. However, how a couple handles their arguments and solves problems can be a vital indicator of the health of their relationship.

Healthy couples can solve conflicts effectively and manage negative behaviors without resorting to violence. On the other hand, if you and your partner are always yelling at each other any time you disagree, your marriage is probably headed for the rocks.

4.   Secretive Behaviors

Your partner is your first friend, and a good friendship is built on honesty and trust. Friends always share what’s going on in their lives and support one another through difficult times.

However, if your lover starts to keep secrets, it might be a sign that they no longer trust you. So, watch out for a spouse who hides their phone, regularly deletes text messages, locks their social media accounts, or gets angry if you catch them chatting with someone else.

5.   Lack of Respect

Both you and your partner have values and beliefs that are important to you. You expect your spouse to respect these values and accept them even when they conflict with their own.

In most crumbling marriages, however, disrespect is a recurring theme. It is common for disrespectful spouses to belittle their partners in front of others, criticize their appearances publicly, or even scorn them in the presence of kids.

6.   No More Caring

Couples who love deeply will care for each other through thick and thin. They will defend one another against criticism and show unwavering support when any one of them is in need.

If your once-loving partner suddenly stops caring about the little things they did to make you happy, such as cooking your favorite meal or taking you out on a date, it could be a sign of trouble in paradise.

If Nothing Seems to Work, Divorce As Amicably as Possible

If all these signs make sense to you and you can’t figure out what to do to save your marriage, it may be time to consider divorce. However, if you choose this route, you must work with a top divorce lawyer to make the process seamless.

Why Hiring a Divorce Lawyer Is So Important

An experienced divorce attorney can help you reach an amicable agreement with your spouse, so you can protect your assets and get what you deserve. Also, if you are worried about your children’s welfare, your attorney can advise about the best custody arrangements for you and your ex.

The post 6 Red Flags That Suggest Your Marriage is Heading for a Divorce appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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When it comes to trust, there are a few red flags that indicate a potentially untrustworthy person. If your date does any of the following things, it may be time to reconsider whether or not they are someone you can trust. An untrustworthy person tends to project guilt about wrongdoings onto others A common sign […]

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When it comes to trust, there are a few red flags that indicate a potentially untrustworthy person. If your date does any of the following things, it may be time to reconsider whether or not they are someone you can trust.

An untrustworthy person tends to project guilt about wrongdoings onto others

A common sign of an untrustworthy person is a tendency to lie. Untrustworthy people usually curl their lips when they lie and take pleasure in the fact that they are lying. Then they try to convince themselves that their actions are entirely normal. For instance, they may tell you that they are going to be somewhere at a certain time, only to be late. Or they might tell you that they are going to give you something but not give it to you.

Another telltale sign of an untrustworthy person is that they don’t care about others’ feelings. They won’t take the time to apologize or take responsibility for their wrongdoings. This behavior is an expression of guilt and often makes it difficult to trust them.

This type of untrustworthy behavior is common among sociopaths. It’s an untrustworthy person’s defense mechanism, allowing them to blame others for their wrongdoings while also exploiting the trust of others. They may manipulate others by asking them for personal information and then not give the same information back. Moreover, they may have a secret life that they are not willing to share.

Lack of self-control

Self-control is a quality that distinguishes a trustworthy person from an unreliable one. Self-control is an indication of a person’s ability to resist temptation. Those who lack self-control are not likely to keep their words or keep their boundaries. They may act impulsively and do things that they know are wrong.

In addition, people who lack self-control often have a hard time controlling their emotions. They may become easily defensive or react angrily to criticism. Moreover, they may be unable to control their jealousy or envy. This can lead to problems in relationships, as they may try to control their partner’s behavior.

A lack of self-control can also be a sign of an untrustworthy person. They may try to impress you with their own ideas, or they may act impulsively without thinking about the consequences. This type of behavior can be dangerous, as it may lead to accidents or risky situations.

If you want to know if someone is trustworthy, pay attention to their self-control. Those who lack self-control are more likely to be untrustworthy.

Watch out for people that hide their pasts

When it comes to dating, one of the most important things to do is get to know your partner. This includes learning about their past, their hopes and dreams for the future, and what makes them tick. Unfortunately, not everyone is forthcoming about their history. Some people choose to hide their pasts for a variety of reasons. While there may be some innocuous reasons for doing so, hiding your past can also be a red flag.

People who are hiding something may be afraid of being rejected or judged, and that can make them dangerous to date. They may also be hiding something dark or unsavory in their past, which could come back to haunt you later on. If you’re thinking about dating someone with a hidden past, make sure you proceed with caution. Conduct a background check if you’re worried about their history, and be prepared to walk away if you don’t like what you find.

Being considerate of other people’s time

One of the easiest ways to find out if your date is trustworthy is to watch how he values other people’s time. A trustworthy individual is always on time and respectful of others’ time. If they are constantly late for events, it may be a sign of dishonesty.

Lack of punctuality isn’t always an indicator of an untrustworthy person. But if your date is constantly changing plans or breaking commitments, it may be a sign that they don’t value your time.

This, in combination with other red flags, might be cause for concern.

Defensiveness

It’s normal to feel a little defensive from time to time, especially when we’re feeling attacked or misunderstood. But when someone is constantly on the defensive, it can be a red flag that something deeper is going on. In a relationship, constant defensiveness can be a sign that someone is afraid of being hurt or rejected. They may be carrying around some baggage from past relationships that have made them super sensitive to any criticism, even if it’s constructive. As a result, they tend to react to even the slightest criticism with defensiveness instead of openness and communication. If you’re dating someone who is always on the defensive, it’s important to have an honest conversation about what’s going on and why. Otherwise, it’s likely that the relationship will never really get off the ground.

 

Conclusion

When it comes to dating, it’s important to be able to trust your partner. Unfortunately, not everyone is trustworthy. If you’re wondering how to find out if your date is trustworthy, pay attention to their self-control, their punctuality, and their defensiveness. These are all red flags that something deeper may be going on. If you’re careful, you can avoid getting hurt in a relationship with an untrustworthy person.

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When it comes to trust, there are a few red flags that indicate a potentially untrustworthy person. If your date does any of the following things, it may be time to reconsider whether or not they are someone you can trust. An untrustworthy person tends to project guilt about wrongdoings onto others A common sign […]

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When it comes to trust, there are a few red flags that indicate a potentially untrustworthy person. If your date does any of the following things, it may be time to reconsider whether or not they are someone you can trust.

An untrustworthy person tends to project guilt about wrongdoings onto others

A common sign of an untrustworthy person is a tendency to lie. Untrustworthy people usually curl their lips when they lie and take pleasure in the fact that they are lying. Then they try to convince themselves that their actions are entirely normal. For instance, they may tell you that they are going to be somewhere at a certain time, only to be late. Or they might tell you that they are going to give you something but not give it to you.

Another telltale sign of an untrustworthy person is that they don’t care about others’ feelings. They won’t take the time to apologize or take responsibility for their wrongdoings. This behavior is an expression of guilt and often makes it difficult to trust them.

This type of untrustworthy behavior is common among sociopaths. It’s an untrustworthy person’s defense mechanism, allowing them to blame others for their wrongdoings while also exploiting the trust of others. They may manipulate others by asking them for personal information and then not give the same information back. Moreover, they may have a secret life that they are not willing to share.

Lack of self-control

Self-control is a quality that distinguishes a trustworthy person from an unreliable one. Self-control is an indication of a person’s ability to resist temptation. Those who lack self-control are not likely to keep their words or keep their boundaries. They may act impulsively and do things that they know are wrong.

In addition, people who lack self-control often have a hard time controlling their emotions. They may become easily defensive or react angrily to criticism. Moreover, they may be unable to control their jealousy or envy. This can lead to problems in relationships, as they may try to control their partner’s behavior.

A lack of self-control can also be a sign of an untrustworthy person. They may try to impress you with their own ideas, or they may act impulsively without thinking about the consequences. This type of behavior can be dangerous, as it may lead to accidents or risky situations.

If you want to know if someone is trustworthy, pay attention to their self-control. Those who lack self-control are more likely to be untrustworthy.

Watch out for people that hide their pasts

When it comes to dating, one of the most important things to do is get to know your partner. This includes learning about their past, their hopes and dreams for the future, and what makes them tick. Unfortunately, not everyone is forthcoming about their history. Some people choose to hide their pasts for a variety of reasons. While there may be some innocuous reasons for doing so, hiding your past can also be a red flag.

People who are hiding something may be afraid of being rejected or judged, and that can make them dangerous to date. They may also be hiding something dark or unsavory in their past, which could come back to haunt you later on. If you’re thinking about dating someone with a hidden past, make sure you proceed with caution. Conduct a background check if you’re worried about their history, and be prepared to walk away if you don’t like what you find.

Being considerate of other people’s time

One of the easiest ways to find out if your date is trustworthy is to watch how he values other people’s time. A trustworthy individual is always on time and respectful of others’ time. If they are constantly late for events, it may be a sign of dishonesty.

Lack of punctuality isn’t always an indicator of an untrustworthy person. But if your date is constantly changing plans or breaking commitments, it may be a sign that they don’t value your time.

This, in combination with other red flags, might be cause for concern.

Defensiveness

It’s normal to feel a little defensive from time to time, especially when we’re feeling attacked or misunderstood. But when someone is constantly on the defensive, it can be a red flag that something deeper is going on. In a relationship, constant defensiveness can be a sign that someone is afraid of being hurt or rejected. They may be carrying around some baggage from past relationships that have made them super sensitive to any criticism, even if it’s constructive. As a result, they tend to react to even the slightest criticism with defensiveness instead of openness and communication. If you’re dating someone who is always on the defensive, it’s important to have an honest conversation about what’s going on and why. Otherwise, it’s likely that the relationship will never really get off the ground.

 

Conclusion

When it comes to dating, it’s important to be able to trust your partner. Unfortunately, not everyone is trustworthy. If you’re wondering how to find out if your date is trustworthy, pay attention to their self-control, their punctuality, and their defensiveness. These are all red flags that something deeper may be going on. If you’re careful, you can avoid getting hurt in a relationship with an untrustworthy person.

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