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I strongly believe that online dating should be considered as a secondary route when it comes to meeting women. It should only be viewed as an investment in easy lays rather than something more substantial. Also if you’re using this sort of medium to meet some lovely ladies, never use it more than an hour every other day.

Online dating is pretty straight forward, you should create your internet profile and hit on the hottest girls on there and wait to see if anything bites, if many of them bite, use a spreadsheet like that guy from New York that got his spreadsheet viral after a date with a girl.

If you’re completely against internet dating, here are 10 reasons why it’s worth considering.

1. Easy way to find your type

Technology has made some serious advancements and they can be seen in internet dating. Dating sites provide customers with very comprehensive search features that offer results that are very compatible to your personality. This means instead of chatting up 10 girls you might not like, you can do a quick search and land 10 results that match.

Such algorithms are the reasons why so many people that meet online end up having a long term relationship.

2. Can hit on large amounts of women in a very short amount of time

If you find yourself without much time on your hands but love to hit on a bunch of women, online dating provides you with this opportunity. You can hit on girls from work or anywhere else and use your free time to hit on girls in real life.

Now I’m not saying to spend your whole working day hitting on girls online but with moderation you can hit on at least 10 girls within 20 minutes.

3. Nobody knows how bad you suck

Unlike the typical bar scenario where you approach a girl, she gives you the finger and all your friends start laughing, you friends will only hear about what you tell them. Plus if you see somebody on there that you might know, unless they expose themselves, nothing will come out.

This makes rejection incredibly easy, also if you hit on a bunch of women simultaneously you won’t even have time to feel bad about getting rejected because you’re already hitting on more women. That’s the beauty of the internet folks.

4. Turning down girls is easy

In real life, when some girls come up to you in a bar (and you don’t like them at all), you usually have to make up some crappy excuse to get out of it. If your internet dating profile is being attacked by unattractive ladies, you simply ignore all of them and you’ll never hear anything back. If you want to be a nice guy, just turn them down, at least they can’t throw their drinks in your face.

5. Porn is only a click away

Conventional dating usually has you sitting at a table somewhere, trying to impress her while she’s judging your every move. Well, on the internet if things get boring or if she starts talking about her sexy tattoo in a very naughty place…then an easy way out to enjoyment is only a mouse click away. Just give the girl a quick “brb” go have a glorious release and get ready for round 2.

I guarantee you doing this online while you’re in your bedroom is much easier than doing it in a crowded restaurant.

6. Small chances of getting your ass kicked by an angry boyfriend

When you’re approaching girls in real there’s always a chance that her bouncer boyfriend was busy guarding the door and he wants to express his masculinity and his love for her by giving you a good old fashioned smashing.

When doing this online you can immediately see their relationship status. Unless their interested in fooling around in which case their bouncer boyfriends haven’t got the slightest clue about where you are and who you are. Quite frankly if she’s on there to cheat on her boyfriend, it shouldn’t even be your problem.

7. You can be exactly who you want to be

If you find it hard to find dates in real life because you’re either socially awkward or have some sort of other issues, this can be a fantastic way to pretend you’re somebody else. Always use a picture of yourself but as far as your achievement, personality traits etc, all can be improved upon.

You might find it hard to act when you’re actually on a real date with this person but provided you had the chance to get to know her to a certain extent the whole social interaction shouldn’t be too stressful.

8. Real life dates end well

If you can convince a random woman on the internet that she should go out with you, your job is pretty much done. Provided that in most of these online situations, people spend some time chatting and getting to know each other, by the time you hit the date she’ll feel like she already knows you and would be pretty much ready to have sex with you.

Since online dating profiles are out in the open, she knows exactly what you’re looking for and you know exactly what she’s looking for. People skip the unnecessary games and get straight in to the action. That’s why internet dating is very good if you’re lazy and can’t be bothered to go out that often because it provides you with an opportunity to get your dick wet without too much effort.

9. Great way to find holiday lays

If you’re planning to visit that mate of yours in Chicago for 2 weeks, it might be a great idea to start a fling with a bunch of girls down there.  By the time you get there the ladies will feel like they already know you and it’s going to go down pretty easy.

If you’re tight with money and loose with your morals you could even use this to hook up free accommodations. Granted this is much harder to do but it’s worth a shot right?

10. Pick anything you want

Apart from helping ugly western guys marry hot young Asian women, online dating can also help you meet women that you would normally not have the chance, or ability to meet in your everyday life.

The internet is a great way to break social and cultural boundaries and can help you land some of the most exotic types of women. It can also get you chicks the chicks that you wouldn’t want your friend to know about…

There you have it, as bad as online dating may seem there are at least 10 reasons that make it worth considering. However, moderation is the key to success, never spend more than 1 hour every other day on dating site and also remember that the best way to meet and date women is in real life, online dating should ALWAYS be your secondary option.

The post 10 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Still Worth Considering appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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I strongly believe that online dating should be considered as a secondary route when it comes to meeting women. It should only be viewed as an investment in easy lays rather than something more substantial. Also if you’re using this sort of medium to meet some lovely ladies, never use it more than an hour every other day.

Online dating is pretty straight forward, you should create your internet profile and hit on the hottest girls on there and wait to see if anything bites, if many of them bite, use a spreadsheet like that guy from New York that got his spreadsheet viral after a date with a girl.

If you’re completely against internet dating, here are 10 reasons why it’s worth considering.

1. Easy way to find your type

Technology has made some serious advancements and they can be seen in internet dating. Dating sites provide customers with very comprehensive search features that offer results that are very compatible to your personality. This means instead of chatting up 10 girls you might not like, you can do a quick search and land 10 results that match.

Such algorithms are the reasons why so many people that meet online end up having a long term relationship.

2. Can hit on large amounts of women in a very short amount of time

If you find yourself without much time on your hands but love to hit on a bunch of women, online dating provides you with this opportunity. You can hit on girls from work or anywhere else and use your free time to hit on girls in real life.

Now I’m not saying to spend your whole working day hitting on girls online but with moderation you can hit on at least 10 girls within 20 minutes.

3. Nobody knows how bad you suck

Unlike the typical bar scenario where you approach a girl, she gives you the finger and all your friends start laughing, you friends will only hear about what you tell them. Plus if you see somebody on there that you might know, unless they expose themselves, nothing will come out.

This makes rejection incredibly easy, also if you hit on a bunch of women simultaneously you won’t even have time to feel bad about getting rejected because you’re already hitting on more women. That’s the beauty of the internet folks.

4. Turning down girls is easy

In real life, when some girls come up to you in a bar (and you don’t like them at all), you usually have to make up some crappy excuse to get out of it. If your internet dating profile is being attacked by unattractive ladies, you simply ignore all of them and you’ll never hear anything back. If you want to be a nice guy, just turn them down, at least they can’t throw their drinks in your face.

5. Porn is only a click away

Conventional dating usually has you sitting at a table somewhere, trying to impress her while she’s judging your every move. Well, on the internet if things get boring or if she starts talking about her sexy tattoo in a very naughty place…then an easy way out to enjoyment is only a mouse click away. Just give the girl a quick “brb” go have a glorious release and get ready for round 2.

I guarantee you doing this online while you’re in your bedroom is much easier than doing it in a crowded restaurant.

6. Small chances of getting your ass kicked by an angry boyfriend

When you’re approaching girls in real there’s always a chance that her bouncer boyfriend was busy guarding the door and he wants to express his masculinity and his love for her by giving you a good old fashioned smashing.

When doing this online you can immediately see their relationship status. Unless their interested in fooling around in which case their bouncer boyfriends haven’t got the slightest clue about where you are and who you are. Quite frankly if she’s on there to cheat on her boyfriend, it shouldn’t even be your problem.

7. You can be exactly who you want to be

If you find it hard to find dates in real life because you’re either socially awkward or have some sort of other issues, this can be a fantastic way to pretend you’re somebody else. Always use a picture of yourself but as far as your achievement, personality traits etc, all can be improved upon.

You might find it hard to act when you’re actually on a real date with this person but provided you had the chance to get to know her to a certain extent the whole social interaction shouldn’t be too stressful.

8. Real life dates end well

If you can convince a random woman on the internet that she should go out with you, your job is pretty much done. Provided that in most of these online situations, people spend some time chatting and getting to know each other, by the time you hit the date she’ll feel like she already knows you and would be pretty much ready to have sex with you.

Since online dating profiles are out in the open, she knows exactly what you’re looking for and you know exactly what she’s looking for. People skip the unnecessary games and get straight in to the action. That’s why internet dating is very good if you’re lazy and can’t be bothered to go out that often because it provides you with an opportunity to get your dick wet without too much effort.

9. Great way to find holiday lays

If you’re planning to visit that mate of yours in Chicago for 2 weeks, it might be a great idea to start a fling with a bunch of girls down there.  By the time you get there the ladies will feel like they already know you and it’s going to go down pretty easy.

If you’re tight with money and loose with your morals you could even use this to hook up free accommodations. Granted this is much harder to do but it’s worth a shot right?

10. Pick anything you want

Apart from helping ugly western guys marry hot young Asian women, online dating can also help you meet women that you would normally not have the chance, or ability to meet in your everyday life.

The internet is a great way to break social and cultural boundaries and can help you land some of the most exotic types of women. It can also get you chicks the chicks that you wouldn’t want your friend to know about…

There you have it, as bad as online dating may seem there are at least 10 reasons that make it worth considering. However, moderation is the key to success, never spend more than 1 hour every other day on dating site and also remember that the best way to meet and date women is in real life, online dating should ALWAYS be your secondary option.

The post 10 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Still Worth Considering appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In order to avoid this, I’ve listed the top 10 untrue myths about women that I have personally recognized to be the most counter-productive and prevalent in contemporary society.

Untrue Myth 1 – Being rude will keep them interested

There’s a basis behind this myth, it teaches men to lower a woman’s self esteem in order to make her feel like you are much better than her and as a result making her believe that she needs you.

This might sound great if you’ve got some sort of misogynistic feelings but, in reality this is evil behavior, which usually ends up with the beautiful woman cheating on you because you were rude to her all the time. It often happens because her self esteem will eventually get so low that she becomes desperate for a man to appreciate and like her.

More often than not these girls will come back to you but you’ve already destroyed any chance of having a meaningful relationship the moment you started treating them like crap. Thus, you will never get the chance to experience love and the euphoria that comes with it.

Untrue Myth 2 – Never pay for drinks if you want them to like you

If you’re familiar with the international bestselling book, “The Game” by Neil Straus you will know very well what I mean. Unfortunately that book had a dramatic effect on socially awkward men everywhere that are now refusing to buy beautiful women drinks.

I’ll have to admit that there’s some truth behind Neil’s teachings. There are a lot of gorgeous women out there that will pretend to be interested in you just to get free drinks. I do have to mention that Neil failed to clarify a very important thing in his book; as important as it may be to NOT allow women to use you for free drinks or to avoid the cliché pick-up line, “can I buy you a drink?”; being a total cheapskate can have a more damaging effect on your actual game.

If you believe she is worth it, buying girls a drink can have a surprisingly beneficial effect.

You should most certainly be suspicious if SHE asks you to buy her a drink, or actually insulted if she asks you to buy her and her friends a drink. But if everything falls within the norm, just open your wallet and share the wealth.

Untrue Myth 3 – Try a few smaller fish before you get to the big one

Many men seem to believe that in order to pick up super hot chicks they should first practice on ugly girls and slowly work towards the top. I’m sorry to inform you but this tactic will only make you a master at seducing ugly girls.

The best way to learn about picking up hot girls is to actually go out there and try to pick up hot girls. Think of it this way, if you know how to drive a stick (the hot girl) you’ll have no problem driving an automatic (the ugly girl) but, it’s not as easy the other way around…

Gorgeous women have a completely different attitude and standards when compared to uglier girls. The main reason would be the fact that they are absolutely aware of how gorgeous they are and they have a lot of options to choose from, thus allowing them to be very picky. The only way for one to actually be successful with these women is to learn the game, the better you know it, the higher your success rate with any type of woman.

Untrue Myth 4 – Beautiful women are harder to get

Hot women love sex just as much as any other woman.

It’s true that they have higher standards but if your standards are up to the par you shouldn’t have any problems. Beautiful women can and will be just as promiscuous, just as horny and just as keen as all the other girls out there, the only difference being their lack of desperation.

Most of the time a girl decides if she’s going to sleep with a guy before she even puts on her make-up, prior to going out. Being that guy or not, will only depend on you and your abilities to seduce her. The biggest mistake that normal guys make when it comes to these beautiful women is the fact that they never try in the first place.

How can you win a contest if you don’t even participate? The fundamental key behind good game is daring to go after the girls that you want, rather than waiting for them to come to you.

Untrue Myth 5 – Women don’t care about your appearance

A myth like this one could only be created by very unattractive people that told themselves this in order to make themselves feel better. Sadly, looks do matter, not as much as they do for us men but, nevertheless they matter.

However, your face plays a very small role in what makes you aesthetically pleasing. Everything else can be worked on and improved dramatically until almost anyone can be turned into an attractive person.

It’s also important to note that even though you have a great personality, you should never overlook your looks. Keep yourself clean and wear smart clothes as those tend to bring the best out in men. Although incredibly beautiful women tend to settle for less attractive men (Shakira) it’s very important to remember that those men still need to be “good enough” in order to be a worthy mate.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so what may seem ugly to me, may be seen as very beautiful to a woman.

Untrue Myth 6 – Wealth is the reason why beautiful women date guys

I think all men have wondered about this one.

They see an incredibly beautiful woman with an average looking guy and automatically believe that the guy must be loaded, otherwise how would he be able get a girl like that? In some cases that is indeed true but what really attracts women to these men is not the actual money, it’s the security that comes with it.

So how do you go about this if you’re broke? You manage to portray yourself as a valuable investment that will eventually offer her all the security and safety she needs. Women will almost always fall for the investment as much as they would fall for the actual thing. It’s all about the game.

Plus without game, you can be the richest guy in the world and never be able to buy her love and affection. Sure, you can pay for sex with beautiful women but that will not bring you any sense of happiness.

Untrue Myth 7 – Women love big muscles

There’s a lot of guys that spend insane amounts of time in the gym, while there’s nothing wrong with that, the ones that believe the bigger they get the more attractive they will become, have a serious issue.

It’s true that women will go for athletic looking guys but this has severe limitations. Women see huge muscles more unattractive than having no muscles at all and over muscled men such as body builders are frightening and grotesque, not at all attractive to women.

Big muscles have been engraved in men’s head since childhood. We read comic books where Batman and all these other super heroes had huge muscled bodies. In reality, the real life version of these super heroes, spend most of the time shrinking their testicles and giving themselves early onset arthritis in an isolated room with other grotesquely hulkish men and very rarely venture out into the real world.

This may be a very stereotypical assessment of a body builder but the fact remains, most beautiful women find huge muscled bodies unattractive and I would personally recommend not to venture into this realm.

Untrue Myth 8 – They prefer to be TEXTED instead of called

I agree that in today’s digital age there will be teenage girls that get angry when you call them. However I’m not a teenager and if you’re like me, calling is more popular than ever.

I’ve had men ask me countless times about text game…seriously what is text game? In my opinion these guys have been lead to believe that texting is more casual than calling and as a result it should bring in better results.

But yet, even though they’ve used the casual approach, the girl doesn’t reply. Instead of wondering why she’s not interested in you, think about the immature way in which you’re courting her.

Phone calls are good because they are the only way to receive a firm response, quite often the girl will gradually lose interest in between the time she gave you her number and when you choose to contact her. A text message won’t help her remember who you are…

The best part about calling is the fact that once they hear your voice they will instantly remember why they liked you in the first place.

Untrue Myth 9 – Kissing always results into the horizontal folk dance

All of us make this mistake at some point in our lives. We’re out and we manage to get a sexy girl to kiss us. We then hang on to her all night, like a bad wart, until eventually, when the moment comes to take her home, she rejects us and we remain shocked.

Let’s face it, a kiss means that you’ve done something right but it never means sex. There are countless reasons why women make out with men but there is only one reason why a girl would want to take it to the next level with a guy she just met, desire.

Untrue Myth 10 –If she has sex with you, she wants a relationship

This is probably the biggest myth; men make this outrageous assumption without realizing that we actually live in a modern society where women have the same freedom as men.

Sure, once upon a time when women were not allowed to vote things were very different but, in a society where TV shows like “Sex and the city” clearly show how independent a woman can be, it would be downright stupid for us men to assume that any woman that sleeps with us will always want more than just a night of passion.

It’s often very easy to spot if a woman has any interest in a relationship or not. Usually if it takes her a while to sleep with you (more than a few dates), in which case she is obviously waiting for you to gain her trust thus, showing you that she does not sleep with anyone and that she might be a valuable life partner.

So how do we deal with this? It’s easy, we just alter our expectation to be in line with modern society. We enjoy casual sex and when it does happen we don’t see it as a commitment gesture but more as a sign of interest.

Today, many women will give you access between her tights in a couple of hours but will take them months until they give you access to their hearts.

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Sadly in our manly attempts to understand women, many of us make the mistake in taking what others have said about the opposite sex, to be true. This eventually leads to terrible mistakes and a constant stream of rejection which can be incredibly damaging for on a man’s self image.

In order to avoid this, I’ve listed the top 10 untrue myths about women that I have personally recognized to be the most counter-productive and prevalent in contemporary society.

Untrue Myth 1 – Being rude will keep them interested

There’s a basis behind this myth, it teaches men to lower a woman’s self esteem in order to make her feel like you are much better than her and as a result making her believe that she needs you.

This might sound great if you’ve got some sort of misogynistic feelings but, in reality this is evil behavior, which usually ends up with the beautiful woman cheating on you because you were rude to her all the time. It often happens because her self esteem will eventually get so low that she becomes desperate for a man to appreciate and like her.

More often than not these girls will come back to you but you’ve already destroyed any chance of having a meaningful relationship the moment you started treating them like crap. Thus, you will never get the chance to experience love and the euphoria that comes with it.

Untrue Myth 2 – Never pay for drinks if you want them to like you

If you’re familiar with the international bestselling book, “The Game” by Neil Straus you will know very well what I mean. Unfortunately that book had a dramatic effect on socially awkward men everywhere that are now refusing to buy beautiful women drinks.

I’ll have to admit that there’s some truth behind Neil’s teachings. There are a lot of gorgeous women out there that will pretend to be interested in you just to get free drinks. I do have to mention that Neil failed to clarify a very important thing in his book; as important as it may be to NOT allow women to use you for free drinks or to avoid the cliché pick-up line, “can I buy you a drink?”; being a total cheapskate can have a more damaging effect on your actual game.

If you believe she is worth it, buying girls a drink can have a surprisingly beneficial effect.

You should most certainly be suspicious if SHE asks you to buy her a drink, or actually insulted if she asks you to buy her and her friends a drink. But if everything falls within the norm, just open your wallet and share the wealth.

Untrue Myth 3 – Try a few smaller fish before you get to the big one

Many men seem to believe that in order to pick up super hot chicks they should first practice on ugly girls and slowly work towards the top. I’m sorry to inform you but this tactic will only make you a master at seducing ugly girls.

The best way to learn about picking up hot girls is to actually go out there and try to pick up hot girls. Think of it this way, if you know how to drive a stick (the hot girl) you’ll have no problem driving an automatic (the ugly girl) but, it’s not as easy the other way around…

Gorgeous women have a completely different attitude and standards when compared to uglier girls. The main reason would be the fact that they are absolutely aware of how gorgeous they are and they have a lot of options to choose from, thus allowing them to be very picky. The only way for one to actually be successful with these women is to learn the game, the better you know it, the higher your success rate with any type of woman.

Untrue Myth 4 – Beautiful women are harder to get

Hot women love sex just as much as any other woman.

It’s true that they have higher standards but if your standards are up to the par you shouldn’t have any problems. Beautiful women can and will be just as promiscuous, just as horny and just as keen as all the other girls out there, the only difference being their lack of desperation.

Most of the time a girl decides if she’s going to sleep with a guy before she even puts on her make-up, prior to going out. Being that guy or not, will only depend on you and your abilities to seduce her. The biggest mistake that normal guys make when it comes to these beautiful women is the fact that they never try in the first place.

How can you win a contest if you don’t even participate? The fundamental key behind good game is daring to go after the girls that you want, rather than waiting for them to come to you.

Untrue Myth 5 – Women don’t care about your appearance

A myth like this one could only be created by very unattractive people that told themselves this in order to make themselves feel better. Sadly, looks do matter, not as much as they do for us men but, nevertheless they matter.

However, your face plays a very small role in what makes you aesthetically pleasing. Everything else can be worked on and improved dramatically until almost anyone can be turned into an attractive person.

It’s also important to note that even though you have a great personality, you should never overlook your looks. Keep yourself clean and wear smart clothes as those tend to bring the best out in men. Although incredibly beautiful women tend to settle for less attractive men (Shakira) it’s very important to remember that those men still need to be “good enough” in order to be a worthy mate.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so what may seem ugly to me, may be seen as very beautiful to a woman.

Untrue Myth 6 – Wealth is the reason why beautiful women date guys

I think all men have wondered about this one.

They see an incredibly beautiful woman with an average looking guy and automatically believe that the guy must be loaded, otherwise how would he be able get a girl like that? In some cases that is indeed true but what really attracts women to these men is not the actual money, it’s the security that comes with it.

So how do you go about this if you’re broke? You manage to portray yourself as a valuable investment that will eventually offer her all the security and safety she needs. Women will almost always fall for the investment as much as they would fall for the actual thing. It’s all about the game.

Plus without game, you can be the richest guy in the world and never be able to buy her love and affection. Sure, you can pay for sex with beautiful women but that will not bring you any sense of happiness.

Untrue Myth 7 – Women love big muscles

There’s a lot of guys that spend insane amounts of time in the gym, while there’s nothing wrong with that, the ones that believe the bigger they get the more attractive they will become, have a serious issue.

It’s true that women will go for athletic looking guys but this has severe limitations. Women see huge muscles more unattractive than having no muscles at all and over muscled men such as body builders are frightening and grotesque, not at all attractive to women.

Big muscles have been engraved in men’s head since childhood. We read comic books where Batman and all these other super heroes had huge muscled bodies. In reality, the real life version of these super heroes, spend most of the time shrinking their testicles and giving themselves early onset arthritis in an isolated room with other grotesquely hulkish men and very rarely venture out into the real world.

This may be a very stereotypical assessment of a body builder but the fact remains, most beautiful women find huge muscled bodies unattractive and I would personally recommend not to venture into this realm.

Untrue Myth 8 – They prefer to be TEXTED instead of called

I agree that in today’s digital age there will be teenage girls that get angry when you call them. However I’m not a teenager and if you’re like me, calling is more popular than ever.

I’ve had men ask me countless times about text game…seriously what is text game? In my opinion these guys have been lead to believe that texting is more casual than calling and as a result it should bring in better results.

But yet, even though they’ve used the casual approach, the girl doesn’t reply. Instead of wondering why she’s not interested in you, think about the immature way in which you’re courting her.

Phone calls are good because they are the only way to receive a firm response, quite often the girl will gradually lose interest in between the time she gave you her number and when you choose to contact her. A text message won’t help her remember who you are…

The best part about calling is the fact that once they hear your voice they will instantly remember why they liked you in the first place.

Untrue Myth 9 – Kissing always results into the horizontal folk dance

All of us make this mistake at some point in our lives. We’re out and we manage to get a sexy girl to kiss us. We then hang on to her all night, like a bad wart, until eventually, when the moment comes to take her home, she rejects us and we remain shocked.

Let’s face it, a kiss means that you’ve done something right but it never means sex. There are countless reasons why women make out with men but there is only one reason why a girl would want to take it to the next level with a guy she just met, desire.

Untrue Myth 10 –If she has sex with you, she wants a relationship

This is probably the biggest myth; men make this outrageous assumption without realizing that we actually live in a modern society where women have the same freedom as men.

Sure, once upon a time when women were not allowed to vote things were very different but, in a society where TV shows like “Sex and the city” clearly show how independent a woman can be, it would be downright stupid for us men to assume that any woman that sleeps with us will always want more than just a night of passion.

It’s often very easy to spot if a woman has any interest in a relationship or not. Usually if it takes her a while to sleep with you (more than a few dates), in which case she is obviously waiting for you to gain her trust thus, showing you that she does not sleep with anyone and that she might be a valuable life partner.

So how do we deal with this? It’s easy, we just alter our expectation to be in line with modern society. We enjoy casual sex and when it does happen we don’t see it as a commitment gesture but more as a sign of interest.

Today, many women will give you access between her tights in a couple of hours but will take them months until they give you access to their hearts.

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I want to start this article by mentioning that “YOUNG” relates to women that are obviously over 18 years old up until a maximum of 22. This is what I call young and ideal. After about 22 their “dating” mentality changes and they start to want other things from the guys that want to have sex with them. Having said all that, let’s look at a list of things that will help you score that young hottie with ease.

*Please do not read this article if you’re a woman, especially if you’re in the above category as you may be offended. *

Lack Of Respect

Young chicks are probably the only ones you can disrespect as part of your game. After a certain age women get fed up with dudes that act cocky, talk down to them, tease them etc…but whilst they’re still young, it works like a charm. It triggers that “This guy might not want me” reaction in her brain which makes her want to be with you.

To make things easier, here’s a few things you can do: don’t always pay attention to what she’s saying, tease her dress, tease her about the way she talks, acts, laughs etc.

Don’t Make Plans

Young chicks love to bail on guys and then laugh with their friends when the dudes get annoyed. To keep her in the “disrespect” line, make last minute plans and show no sign of caring if she turns you down because often enough, she won’t.

You can often take her to the same cheap place without trying to impress her. Also, when she asks you how you spent your other nights, when you didn’t see her, you can just tell her about the great venues you went to with your “friend”. Make her think about why you aren’t taking her with you to other places; it will make her doubt herself.

Tease Her About Being Too Young/Immature and Inexperienced

This is a fantastic way to keep her feeling insecure, especially if you’re a bit older than her, just keep mentioning how funny it is that she hasn’t yet become a woman; how cute she is when she doesn’t understand certain “grown up” things. She’ll try her best to be a better woman for you.

Even when you’re asking for her number, you can say something in the lines of: “I think you’re a great girl but you’re just too young.  Do I need to ask your parents for permission to take you out on a first date?”.

Never Let Her Be In Control

Young chicks are very aware of this whole power balance in relationships, they actually think about it quite often. She’ll almost instantly drop you if you say : “I love you / I want to be with you “. Never show any signs of weakness, she’ll just take it for granted. Make her work for you and make sure she’s the first one that wants to commit.

You can even play her for quite a while by discounting her feelings when she brings up the subject of “long term relationships”. Just say: “Are you joking?”

Never Underestimate Her

These chicks are in their prime and they know it. Never forget that. If you think you can just cruise around whilst treating her like a joke, you’re wrong. They have an incredible amount of game awareness, lots more than most guys around 30 which means, she can smell your weakness a mile away.

You may neglecting the fact that she took over 2 hours to reply to your text, because you really couldn’t care less, so you immediately reply when you see the text only to see that she’s gone because that was a test that proved how weak you are… Yes, as strange as it may seem, many young chicks play such games. To be on the safe side, make sure you take a full day to respond back.

Nothing More But a Sex Object

As previously mentioned, you should treat her like you’re only using her for sex. Ideally, you should do this to every woman, at least in the early stages of a relationship but, when it comes to young hot chicks, this type of behavior is a must.

Because she’s already thinking she’s not good for you, treating her like this will make her work even harder to have you, plus…because you’re constantly teasing her age, she feels insecure about her sex skills too which, will only make her work harder in that department as well.

Remember, this sort of behavior excludes holding hands and cuddling while she’s on her period but does include watching a ball game with your friends that very same night.

Don’t Try To Impress Her

Another great thing about young chicks is that they don’t need to be impressed. Again, after a certain age, women look for security, financial stability etc in their potential mate. Luckily for you, young chicks don’t care about these things; it’s all about how you can make them feel.

If you’re trying to impress a young chick with your amazing office job, you’ve already lost her. Sure, flashing money all over the place may help but, the actual impressing her with it isn’t really necessary.

Concentrate on the first two points, make her feel good (laugh, have fun) and you’ll be in her pants in no time.

Don’t Act Your Age

Obviously, this article was mainly focused towards dudes that are at least 23 but, regardless of what age you’re at, the key is to NOT act your age. If you’re 43 and act like it you’re going to have a big problem but if you’re 43 and act like 25 you’re going to blow her away.

The same goes when you’re 20 and she’s 18…yes you’re ages are similar but if you can show outstanding maturity whilst still being able to connect with her at her age, you’ve scored big time.

The key is to be able to connect with her, at her age, in her way but also show her that there’s much more than that. All the same age douche bags that hit on her act and do the same things. Be different from everyone but, still know how to connect with her at a basic level.

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I want to start this article by mentioning that “YOUNG” relates to women that are obviously over 18 years old up until a maximum of 22. This is what I call young and ideal. After about 22 their “dating” mentality changes and they start to want other things from the guys that want to have sex with them. Having said all that, let’s look at a list of things that will help you score that young hottie with ease.

*Please do not read this article if you’re a woman, especially if you’re in the above category as you may be offended. *

Lack Of Respect

Young chicks are probably the only ones you can disrespect as part of your game. After a certain age women get fed up with dudes that act cocky, talk down to them, tease them etc…but whilst they’re still young, it works like a charm. It triggers that “This guy might not want me” reaction in her brain which makes her want to be with you.

To make things easier, here’s a few things you can do: don’t always pay attention to what she’s saying, tease her dress, tease her about the way she talks, acts, laughs etc.

Don’t Make Plans

Young chicks love to bail on guys and then laugh with their friends when the dudes get annoyed. To keep her in the “disrespect” line, make last minute plans and show no sign of caring if she turns you down because often enough, she won’t.

You can often take her to the same cheap place without trying to impress her. Also, when she asks you how you spent your other nights, when you didn’t see her, you can just tell her about the great venues you went to with your “friend”. Make her think about why you aren’t taking her with you to other places; it will make her doubt herself.

Tease Her About Being Too Young/Immature and Inexperienced

This is a fantastic way to keep her feeling insecure, especially if you’re a bit older than her, just keep mentioning how funny it is that she hasn’t yet become a woman; how cute she is when she doesn’t understand certain “grown up” things. She’ll try her best to be a better woman for you.

Even when you’re asking for her number, you can say something in the lines of: “I think you’re a great girl but you’re just too young.  Do I need to ask your parents for permission to take you out on a first date?”.

Never Let Her Be In Control

Young chicks are very aware of this whole power balance in relationships, they actually think about it quite often. She’ll almost instantly drop you if you say : “I love you / I want to be with you “. Never show any signs of weakness, she’ll just take it for granted. Make her work for you and make sure she’s the first one that wants to commit.

You can even play her for quite a while by discounting her feelings when she brings up the subject of “long term relationships”. Just say: “Are you joking?”

Never Underestimate Her

These chicks are in their prime and they know it. Never forget that. If you think you can just cruise around whilst treating her like a joke, you’re wrong. They have an incredible amount of game awareness, lots more than most guys around 30 which means, she can smell your weakness a mile away.

You may neglecting the fact that she took over 2 hours to reply to your text, because you really couldn’t care less, so you immediately reply when you see the text only to see that she’s gone because that was a test that proved how weak you are… Yes, as strange as it may seem, many young chicks play such games. To be on the safe side, make sure you take a full day to respond back.

Nothing More But a Sex Object

As previously mentioned, you should treat her like you’re only using her for sex. Ideally, you should do this to every woman, at least in the early stages of a relationship but, when it comes to young hot chicks, this type of behavior is a must.

Because she’s already thinking she’s not good for you, treating her like this will make her work even harder to have you, plus…because you’re constantly teasing her age, she feels insecure about her sex skills too which, will only make her work harder in that department as well.

Remember, this sort of behavior excludes holding hands and cuddling while she’s on her period but does include watching a ball game with your friends that very same night.

Don’t Try To Impress Her

Another great thing about young chicks is that they don’t need to be impressed. Again, after a certain age, women look for security, financial stability etc in their potential mate. Luckily for you, young chicks don’t care about these things; it’s all about how you can make them feel.

If you’re trying to impress a young chick with your amazing office job, you’ve already lost her. Sure, flashing money all over the place may help but, the actual impressing her with it isn’t really necessary.

Concentrate on the first two points, make her feel good (laugh, have fun) and you’ll be in her pants in no time.

Don’t Act Your Age

Obviously, this article was mainly focused towards dudes that are at least 23 but, regardless of what age you’re at, the key is to NOT act your age. If you’re 43 and act like it you’re going to have a big problem but if you’re 43 and act like 25 you’re going to blow her away.

The same goes when you’re 20 and she’s 18…yes you’re ages are similar but if you can show outstanding maturity whilst still being able to connect with her at her age, you’ve scored big time.

The key is to be able to connect with her, at her age, in her way but also show her that there’s much more than that. All the same age douche bags that hit on her act and do the same things. Be different from everyone but, still know how to connect with her at a basic level.

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I’m not the best when it comes to motivational articles; I’m usually the more direct type of guy that speaks his mind without fear of hurting other people. Since confidence is such a popular issue amongst men, I figured it was only natural I’d give this another shot. I found this amazing quote the other […]

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I’m not the best when it comes to motivational articles; I’m usually the more direct type of guy that speaks his mind without fear of hurting other people. Since confidence is such a popular issue amongst men, I figured it was only natural I’d give this another shot.

I found this amazing quote the other day “First you do the thing you’re scared of…then you get the courage” and it gave me some inspiration.

I usually get guys on the emails saying that they wish they had more confidence…you see, things like that only make me angry, guys talking about confidence as if it’s something that’s given.

The thing with confidence is that it’s something you have to work for. If you actually make an effort on building your confidence and do things that naturally have a positive effect on your self-esteem, you have something that most don’t, which will ultimately give you an advantage in life.

Basically, you’ll become the guy that women want, the guy that guys want to be and the guy that people turn to when they need advice, help or guidance.

Once a high level of confidence is achieved, you’ll live your life more fearlessly, trying newer and newer things, meeting new people and achieving the things you never imagined you could achieve. As cheesy as that might sound, it’s true.

If you still believe confidence is given or that it can be picked up in a matter of minutes, you are WRONG. However, if you feel that you’re ready to make a change, you’re ready to stop being a bitch about life and want to grow the balls to get the women you want, and become the man you’re truly meant to become, then keep reading this article as it could potentially be LIFE CHANGING.

The Basics of Confidence

Understanding the basics is the first step in understanding anything in life and it also applies to confidence and self-esteem.

Confidence is a SKILL

I like to view confidence as a skill. It’s a skill because it’s not something that’s given to you straight away, it’s something that you work on and get better with experience. Every day you do something that either builds your confidence or destroys it. That’s why it’s paramount you focus on doing things that build your confidence.

You are NOT confident from Birth – Many people believe that you are either born with confidence or you’re not. This couldn’t be more wrong, confidence is a skill that some people have learned to master over the years. A baby has 0 skills at birth, it’s his environment and experiences that give him the skills he will later have in life.

Confidence is impossible to fake – The term “Fake it until you make it” does NOT apply when it comes to confidence. By faking it you’re simply covering up your insecurities and fears, which will soon be unveiled the moment someone says something that doesn’t go down well with you. Never fake confidence.

Important Note: The more you think about confidence, the less confident you actually are. Only when you forget about confidence all together and continue to act in a confident manner, will you actually achieve a TRUE confident state.

Lack Of Confidence Is Down To Other People’s Reactions

If you’re unconfident about something, it’s because over time you’ve come to believe that based on other people’s reactions. Let’s say that you’re a short man and feel very insecure about your height, this happens because people have brought the issue up over the years and it’s now inside your head, affecting your actions throughout your life.

Here’s a quick reality blast.

People only care about themselves – The fact of the matter is that people don’t care about you per say, they care only about themselves. Saying they care about others is a lie. As human being we are designed to be concerned only about our own safety.

So, if someone made fun of you for being short, they only did that in order to project their own insecurities upon you. This is exactly why you should never take things personally, in fact you should relish on the fact that the person making fun of you has some serious issues.

It’s Normal To Be Scared

We’re all born with an ability to feel fear. Most people think it’s a bad thing when in fact it’s actually a good thing. Fear is a great mechanism that protects you from various things. It lets you brain now that what you’re about to do, is something that you haven’t done before and therefore you should fear it.

Improving your confidence means pushing past your fears – This is exactly why fearing something is so great. If you didn’t fear anything, then you wouldn’t know how to improve yourself. You need to keep pushing yourself to go past your fears if you ever expect to improve upon your natural confidence.

Pushing past your fears creates momentum – As you push past your fears, you’ll notice that rush of adrenaline in your body. This fuels your confidence and in turn allows you to push your fears even further. It’s all interconnected. For example, if you’d approach that hot girl you consider way out of your league and she reacts positively, that rush of adrenaline will allow you to push things even further and thus making a move on her, something that you would have never even believed to be possible. Confidence momentum building is probably the fastest way to build your confidence.

Avoid the slump at all costs – Although you’re making progress, you’re starting to build momentum, work and life in general takes its toll and you just can’t find the time to go out and push your fears some more. AVOID falling into a slump because coming back from that is just like starting everything all over again. Once you have built up some momentum, it’s absolutely paramount that you continuously build upon that momentum.

Fast Ways To Improve Your Confidence and Inner-Game

Now that you know what confidence is, here are the best and fastest ways to improve it:

Go Past Your Comfort Zone

As long as you sit in your dreaded comfort zone your self-esteem will be trapped and you’ll never be able to become amazing with women. Breaking out of your comfort zone is the ONLY way to achieve success. If you’re reading this right now, approaching women might probably something that’s out of your comfort zone, unless you muster up the courage to do that, you’ll never actually meet any women.

Here are some easy ways to get out of that comfort zone:

Go To Improv Class – This is a fantastic way to break out of your comfort zone while also learning how to improvise in various scenarios. Talking in front of a room full of strangers will also FORCE you to grow some balls and dramatically increase your confidence in the process.

Approach 1 Girl Every Day – You want to be more confident in order to make it easier on yourself when talking to women. Approaching 1 woman a day is a sure way to get you closer towards that goal. You’ll feel fear initially, you’ll get shut down a lot, but that’s only going to increase your momentum and eventually get you to a point where all of this becomes natural.

Try To Do More Of What You Hate – Doing things that you hate is another fantastic way to get over your fears and build up on confidence. If you hate your job, it doesn’t;’t mean working more and living in total misery is the way to go but, it does mean you should approach 5 women on a night out,  if you’re the type of guy that hates and fears rejection.

If you find yourself having an excuse for why you shouldn’t do something, then that something is exactly what you need to do!

Change/Improve The Way You Look

Don’t you feel better when you’ve bought new clothes and are freshly shaved? These go by that same principle…

Spend On A Stylist – Most men do not have a keen sense of fashion but they do tend to be able to afford a stylist. Hiring one of these guys might actually change your life. They will be able to dress you in things that compliment your body, things that women will ALWAYS notice. This is actually one of the best things you can spend your money on.

Keep Yourself Groomed – Grooming is becoming a necessity in today’s day and age. I’m not saying to go all out Brazilian on your body (as I NEVER do that) but keeping a nice shaved face, or groomed beard is a must. Same goes for your body hair, let your dong see the light, don’t drown it in hair, trim it and keep it clean, same goes for your armpits. The general rule with hair on men goes like this, if it’s long, make it shorter.

Work Out – This one was obviously coming but it’s only because of its importance. Not only does working out improve your physical appearance but the process released endorphins which make you feel better about yourself. Remember this the next time you find an excuse to avoid some exercise.

Keep Your Social Circles In Check

One of the most important things in your player life is your social circles. If you like to ride solo, that’s fine. But if you hang out with people that constantly put you down, have shit activities, no fun, then you will never evolve as a person.

Hang Out With Like Minded Individuals – Hang around people that have the confidence you want to have. Hang around people that like to do what you like to do. Always try to hang around people that will improve you in one way or another.

Never hang around people that will just drag you down – Stop being friends and stop associating yourself with people that have a negative attitude towards life, the people that will only bring you hardship and pain.

Positivity is the Key To Success

Although I’m the action taking kind of guy, I can confidently say that your mentality plays a tremendous role in how your confidence is built.

No Negative Thoughts – Try to refrain yourself from seeing scenarios in which you fail or scenarios that are generally negative. A good way to train your mind to be more positive is to KILL negative thoughts on the spot. If you start thinking that you’ll fail in any given task, say to yourself, I’m being negative again, and start thinking how you’ll succeed in that task. It may seem hard in the beginning but just focusing your mind for a few second to think in a positive manner will have a tremendously positive result in the long run.

Imagine The Future Confident You – Take time out of your day (1 minute or 2) to think about the confident guy you’ll become in the near future. Imagine yourself walking up to women and owning their very existence, imagine how women will want to be with you, imagine how people will listen to everything you say and do.

Remember: The guy you want to be, is the guy you’ll eventually become. If you see yourself as a confident man day in and day out, that’s exactly what you’ll project towards the people around you. Eventually you’ll become the man you want to be and you’ll forget everything about confidence because it’s your new natural skill.

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I’m not the best when it comes to motivational articles; I’m usually the more direct type of guy that speaks his mind without fear of hurting other people. Since confidence is such a popular issue amongst men, I figured it was only natural I’d give this another shot. I found this amazing quote the other […]

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I’m not the best when it comes to motivational articles; I’m usually the more direct type of guy that speaks his mind without fear of hurting other people. Since confidence is such a popular issue amongst men, I figured it was only natural I’d give this another shot.

I found this amazing quote the other day “First you do the thing you’re scared of…then you get the courage” and it gave me some inspiration.

I usually get guys on the emails saying that they wish they had more confidence…you see, things like that only make me angry, guys talking about confidence as if it’s something that’s given.

The thing with confidence is that it’s something you have to work for. If you actually make an effort on building your confidence and do things that naturally have a positive effect on your self-esteem, you have something that most don’t, which will ultimately give you an advantage in life.

Basically, you’ll become the guy that women want, the guy that guys want to be and the guy that people turn to when they need advice, help or guidance.

Once a high level of confidence is achieved, you’ll live your life more fearlessly, trying newer and newer things, meeting new people and achieving the things you never imagined you could achieve. As cheesy as that might sound, it’s true.

If you still believe confidence is given or that it can be picked up in a matter of minutes, you are WRONG. However, if you feel that you’re ready to make a change, you’re ready to stop being a bitch about life and want to grow the balls to get the women you want, and become the man you’re truly meant to become, then keep reading this article as it could potentially be LIFE CHANGING.

The Basics of Confidence

Understanding the basics is the first step in understanding anything in life and it also applies to confidence and self-esteem.

Confidence is a SKILL

I like to view confidence as a skill. It’s a skill because it’s not something that’s given to you straight away, it’s something that you work on and get better with experience. Every day you do something that either builds your confidence or destroys it. That’s why it’s paramount you focus on doing things that build your confidence.

You are NOT confident from Birth – Many people believe that you are either born with confidence or you’re not. This couldn’t be more wrong, confidence is a skill that some people have learned to master over the years. A baby has 0 skills at birth, it’s his environment and experiences that give him the skills he will later have in life.

Confidence is impossible to fake – The term “Fake it until you make it” does NOT apply when it comes to confidence. By faking it you’re simply covering up your insecurities and fears, which will soon be unveiled the moment someone says something that doesn’t go down well with you. Never fake confidence.

Important Note: The more you think about confidence, the less confident you actually are. Only when you forget about confidence all together and continue to act in a confident manner, will you actually achieve a TRUE confident state.

Lack Of Confidence Is Down To Other People’s Reactions

If you’re unconfident about something, it’s because over time you’ve come to believe that based on other people’s reactions. Let’s say that you’re a short man and feel very insecure about your height, this happens because people have brought the issue up over the years and it’s now inside your head, affecting your actions throughout your life.

Here’s a quick reality blast.

People only care about themselves – The fact of the matter is that people don’t care about you per say, they care only about themselves. Saying they care about others is a lie. As human being we are designed to be concerned only about our own safety.

So, if someone made fun of you for being short, they only did that in order to project their own insecurities upon you. This is exactly why you should never take things personally, in fact you should relish on the fact that the person making fun of you has some serious issues.

It’s Normal To Be Scared

We’re all born with an ability to feel fear. Most people think it’s a bad thing when in fact it’s actually a good thing. Fear is a great mechanism that protects you from various things. It lets you brain now that what you’re about to do, is something that you haven’t done before and therefore you should fear it.

Improving your confidence means pushing past your fears – This is exactly why fearing something is so great. If you didn’t fear anything, then you wouldn’t know how to improve yourself. You need to keep pushing yourself to go past your fears if you ever expect to improve upon your natural confidence.

Pushing past your fears creates momentum – As you push past your fears, you’ll notice that rush of adrenaline in your body. This fuels your confidence and in turn allows you to push your fears even further. It’s all interconnected. For example, if you’d approach that hot girl you consider way out of your league and she reacts positively, that rush of adrenaline will allow you to push things even further and thus making a move on her, something that you would have never even believed to be possible. Confidence momentum building is probably the fastest way to build your confidence.

Avoid the slump at all costs – Although you’re making progress, you’re starting to build momentum, work and life in general takes its toll and you just can’t find the time to go out and push your fears some more. AVOID falling into a slump because coming back from that is just like starting everything all over again. Once you have built up some momentum, it’s absolutely paramount that you continuously build upon that momentum.

Fast Ways To Improve Your Confidence and Inner-Game

Now that you know what confidence is, here are the best and fastest ways to improve it:

Go Past Your Comfort Zone

As long as you sit in your dreaded comfort zone your self-esteem will be trapped and you’ll never be able to become amazing with women. Breaking out of your comfort zone is the ONLY way to achieve success. If you’re reading this right now, approaching women might probably something that’s out of your comfort zone, unless you muster up the courage to do that, you’ll never actually meet any women.

Here are some easy ways to get out of that comfort zone:

Go To Improv Class – This is a fantastic way to break out of your comfort zone while also learning how to improvise in various scenarios. Talking in front of a room full of strangers will also FORCE you to grow some balls and dramatically increase your confidence in the process.

Approach 1 Girl Every Day – You want to be more confident in order to make it easier on yourself when talking to women. Approaching 1 woman a day is a sure way to get you closer towards that goal. You’ll feel fear initially, you’ll get shut down a lot, but that’s only going to increase your momentum and eventually get you to a point where all of this becomes natural.

Try To Do More Of What You Hate – Doing things that you hate is another fantastic way to get over your fears and build up on confidence. If you hate your job, it doesn’t;’t mean working more and living in total misery is the way to go but, it does mean you should approach 5 women on a night out,  if you’re the type of guy that hates and fears rejection.

If you find yourself having an excuse for why you shouldn’t do something, then that something is exactly what you need to do!

Change/Improve The Way You Look

Don’t you feel better when you’ve bought new clothes and are freshly shaved? These go by that same principle…

Spend On A Stylist – Most men do not have a keen sense of fashion but they do tend to be able to afford a stylist. Hiring one of these guys might actually change your life. They will be able to dress you in things that compliment your body, things that women will ALWAYS notice. This is actually one of the best things you can spend your money on.

Keep Yourself Groomed – Grooming is becoming a necessity in today’s day and age. I’m not saying to go all out Brazilian on your body (as I NEVER do that) but keeping a nice shaved face, or groomed beard is a must. Same goes for your body hair, let your dong see the light, don’t drown it in hair, trim it and keep it clean, same goes for your armpits. The general rule with hair on men goes like this, if it’s long, make it shorter.

Work Out – This one was obviously coming but it’s only because of its importance. Not only does working out improve your physical appearance but the process released endorphins which make you feel better about yourself. Remember this the next time you find an excuse to avoid some exercise.

Keep Your Social Circles In Check

One of the most important things in your player life is your social circles. If you like to ride solo, that’s fine. But if you hang out with people that constantly put you down, have shit activities, no fun, then you will never evolve as a person.

Hang Out With Like Minded Individuals – Hang around people that have the confidence you want to have. Hang around people that like to do what you like to do. Always try to hang around people that will improve you in one way or another.

Never hang around people that will just drag you down – Stop being friends and stop associating yourself with people that have a negative attitude towards life, the people that will only bring you hardship and pain.

Positivity is the Key To Success

Although I’m the action taking kind of guy, I can confidently say that your mentality plays a tremendous role in how your confidence is built.

No Negative Thoughts – Try to refrain yourself from seeing scenarios in which you fail or scenarios that are generally negative. A good way to train your mind to be more positive is to KILL negative thoughts on the spot. If you start thinking that you’ll fail in any given task, say to yourself, I’m being negative again, and start thinking how you’ll succeed in that task. It may seem hard in the beginning but just focusing your mind for a few second to think in a positive manner will have a tremendously positive result in the long run.

Imagine The Future Confident You – Take time out of your day (1 minute or 2) to think about the confident guy you’ll become in the near future. Imagine yourself walking up to women and owning their very existence, imagine how women will want to be with you, imagine how people will listen to everything you say and do.

Remember: The guy you want to be, is the guy you’ll eventually become. If you see yourself as a confident man day in and day out, that’s exactly what you’ll project towards the people around you. Eventually you’ll become the man you want to be and you’ll forget everything about confidence because it’s your new natural skill.

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I usually write about meeting women, going on dates and getting those dates to end in bed. And sometimes, that’s enough – but what happens when you want to turn sex into a relationship? I have a friend who can’t keep a girl for longer than 2-3 months despite “scoring” regularly. He can’t understand why […]

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I usually write about meeting women, going on dates and getting those dates to end in bed. And sometimes, that’s enough – but what happens when you want to turn sex into a relationship?

I have a friend who can’t keep a girl for longer than 2-3 months despite “scoring” regularly. He can’t understand why women lose interest in him so quickly.

Most guys have the same problem.

If they get a girl, they quickly scare her away with their unattractive habits. I break these repulsive behaviors – or turn-offs – into two broad categories: physical and behavioral.

The first few months together give a girl enough time to “really know you.” If you can’t keep these turn-offs under control during this time, you’ll lose your chick.

Read this post, discover the 20 turn-offs that scare women away and start turning sex into relationships!

Physical Turn-Offs: Bad Habits

Women aren’t looking for the strongest, most handsome guy in the room. They just want a man with class, confidence and good etiquette.

That’s why these “physical turnoffs” aren’t about your belly; chicken arms; inability to bench press 180kg. These are basic mistakes you can stop making now to make women attracted to you in the long run.

1.    The open-mouth yawn

Do you think she wants to look at your tonsils every time you’re tired? No – besides, this is basic etiquette!

2. Burping loudly in public

Okay in some Asian countries; not okay in Western culture.

3. Spitting

Regardless of how bad you think you want to, try to hold it in when your girl’s around.

4. Clearing your throat of phlegm

You can wash mucus down by drinking some water. If you really have to clear your throat, use the bathroom.

5. Picking your nose

Seems obvious, but it’s easy to forget yourself after 1-2 months of dating someone. Don’t do this around girls.

6. Displaying nervous ticks

Nervous ticks range from nail-biting to blinking profusely. It’s hard to control these habits, but do your best – they’re not very attractive.

7. Bad Table Manners

Eat with your mouth closed; hold fork and knife properly; don’t talk while chewing. No girl wants your half-chewed puree in her hair.

8. Blowing your nose

Many guys feel this is normal, but girls get grossed out about it.

9. Scratching your private bits

They’re called private for a reason. Most women feel uncomfortable when a man scratches his testicles or butt in public.

Physical Turn-Offs: Your Appearance

10. Eye crust

Avoided by washing your face in the morning.

11. Bad breath

Over 85% of people suffer from halitosis (bad breath) at some point in their lives. Floss, brush your tongue and use mouthwash.

12. Sweaty Pits

These are gross but some guys just can’t avoid them. If you sweat profusely despite using deodorant, try wearing light color clothes (or plain black). Sweat stains are less visible on them.

13. Clothes issues

These can be stains or wrinkles on clothing, holes in your underwear/undershirt, smelly socks, etc. Sort them out.

14. Dirty, long fingernails

Women look at hands all the time and they hate a guy whose hands look like he’s been gardening all day. Unless you play classical guitar, keep your nails trimmed.

Behavioral Turn-Offs

15. Constantly talking about yourself

She does want to know you but she also wants you to know her. Be interested in her and don’t go overboard with the talking.

16. Not listening to her

During these first months do your best to listen; it may seem hard but it has to be done. Women love a guy who knows when to listen.

17. Being too vague

Constantly talking about yourself is no good but remember: she wants to know you. Let her in on the interesting stuff if not your entire life story.

18. Checking out other girls openly

You’re out with her because you’re interested in her. If you keep looking at other women she’ll just think you find her unattractive – and why would she stay with a man like that?

19. Complaining all the time

If you hate your life, why would she want to be part of it?

20. Not introducing her to people you know

She wants to be part of “your world.” With you, she can meet people and do stuff she wouldn’t have done with anyone else. Don’t keep that away from her.

21. Laughing like a hyena

She might have great sense of humor but laughing so hard that everyone in the restaurant looks at you is just embarrassing.

22. Insulting women and exes

This only shows how you’ll talk about her if you break up – and that you’re living in the past. No matter how much pain and suffering your ex put you through, keep those stories for your friends.

 23. Having a one-track mind

A man should always stand by his beliefs but he must also be opened to new possibilities. Acknowledge her point of view as valid, even when you disagree.

In Closing

As exhaustive as this list may seem, you’ve probably heard your female friends complain about some of this stuff. This list helps women decide whether a guy is boyfriend material or a one-time thing.

Always remember: it’s not just the first few dates that require your constant attention, it’s the first few months.

Most guys keep a lid on these habits for a few dates, but relax once they have the girl – which is what will drive her away.

You wouldn’t feel attracted to a girl if she started burping, scratching her crotch and checking out other guys 24/7… So don’t make the same mistakes!

You can also use it for yourself. If a girl’s doing too many of these things, it might be best to stay away.

Eventually things settle down and you can relax more. Once she’s had the chance to know and like you for your true self, she’ll tolerate some of your bad “qualities” – but before that happens, use this list to stay on her good side!

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I usually write about meeting women, going on dates and getting those dates to end in bed. And sometimes, that’s enough – but what happens when you want to turn sex into a relationship? I have a friend who can’t keep a girl for longer than 2-3 months despite “scoring” regularly. He can’t understand why […]

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I usually write about meeting women, going on dates and getting those dates to end in bed. And sometimes, that’s enough – but what happens when you want to turn sex into a relationship?

I have a friend who can’t keep a girl for longer than 2-3 months despite “scoring” regularly. He can’t understand why women lose interest in him so quickly.

Most guys have the same problem.

If they get a girl, they quickly scare her away with their unattractive habits. I break these repulsive behaviors – or turn-offs – into two broad categories: physical and behavioral.

The first few months together give a girl enough time to “really know you.” If you can’t keep these turn-offs under control during this time, you’ll lose your chick.

Read this post, discover the 20 turn-offs that scare women away and start turning sex into relationships!

Physical Turn-Offs: Bad Habits

Women aren’t looking for the strongest, most handsome guy in the room. They just want a man with class, confidence and good etiquette.

That’s why these “physical turnoffs” aren’t about your belly; chicken arms; inability to bench press 180kg. These are basic mistakes you can stop making now to make women attracted to you in the long run.

1.    The open-mouth yawn

Do you think she wants to look at your tonsils every time you’re tired? No – besides, this is basic etiquette!

2. Burping loudly in public

Okay in some Asian countries; not okay in Western culture.

3. Spitting

Regardless of how bad you think you want to, try to hold it in when your girl’s around.

4. Clearing your throat of phlegm

You can wash mucus down by drinking some water. If you really have to clear your throat, use the bathroom.

5. Picking your nose

Seems obvious, but it’s easy to forget yourself after 1-2 months of dating someone. Don’t do this around girls.

6. Displaying nervous ticks

Nervous ticks range from nail-biting to blinking profusely. It’s hard to control these habits, but do your best – they’re not very attractive.

7. Bad Table Manners

Eat with your mouth closed; hold fork and knife properly; don’t talk while chewing. No girl wants your half-chewed puree in her hair.

8. Blowing your nose

Many guys feel this is normal, but girls get grossed out about it.

9. Scratching your private bits

They’re called private for a reason. Most women feel uncomfortable when a man scratches his testicles or butt in public.

Physical Turn-Offs: Your Appearance

10. Eye crust

Avoided by washing your face in the morning.

11. Bad breath

Over 85% of people suffer from halitosis (bad breath) at some point in their lives. Floss, brush your tongue and use mouthwash.

12. Sweaty Pits

These are gross but some guys just can’t avoid them. If you sweat profusely despite using deodorant, try wearing light color clothes (or plain black). Sweat stains are less visible on them.

13. Clothes issues

These can be stains or wrinkles on clothing, holes in your underwear/undershirt, smelly socks, etc. Sort them out.

14. Dirty, long fingernails

Women look at hands all the time and they hate a guy whose hands look like he’s been gardening all day. Unless you play classical guitar, keep your nails trimmed.

Behavioral Turn-Offs

15. Constantly talking about yourself

She does want to know you but she also wants you to know her. Be interested in her and don’t go overboard with the talking.

16. Not listening to her

During these first months do your best to listen; it may seem hard but it has to be done. Women love a guy who knows when to listen.

17. Being too vague

Constantly talking about yourself is no good but remember: she wants to know you. Let her in on the interesting stuff if not your entire life story.

18. Checking out other girls openly

You’re out with her because you’re interested in her. If you keep looking at other women she’ll just think you find her unattractive – and why would she stay with a man like that?

19. Complaining all the time

If you hate your life, why would she want to be part of it?

20. Not introducing her to people you know

She wants to be part of “your world.” With you, she can meet people and do stuff she wouldn’t have done with anyone else. Don’t keep that away from her.

21. Laughing like a hyena

She might have great sense of humor but laughing so hard that everyone in the restaurant looks at you is just embarrassing.

22. Insulting women and exes

This only shows how you’ll talk about her if you break up – and that you’re living in the past. No matter how much pain and suffering your ex put you through, keep those stories for your friends.

 23. Having a one-track mind

A man should always stand by his beliefs but he must also be opened to new possibilities. Acknowledge her point of view as valid, even when you disagree.

In Closing

As exhaustive as this list may seem, you’ve probably heard your female friends complain about some of this stuff. This list helps women decide whether a guy is boyfriend material or a one-time thing.

Always remember: it’s not just the first few dates that require your constant attention, it’s the first few months.

Most guys keep a lid on these habits for a few dates, but relax once they have the girl – which is what will drive her away.

You wouldn’t feel attracted to a girl if she started burping, scratching her crotch and checking out other guys 24/7… So don’t make the same mistakes!

You can also use it for yourself. If a girl’s doing too many of these things, it might be best to stay away.

Eventually things settle down and you can relax more. Once she’s had the chance to know and like you for your true self, she’ll tolerate some of your bad “qualities” – but before that happens, use this list to stay on her good side!

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A few years ago, I was lonely and decided to get good with women. I started talking to them on sidewalks and in malls, practiced hard and eventually became a dating coach. Today, the quest to understand girls is still a big part of my life. Some people ask me why don’t I just write about meeting […]

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A few years ago, I was lonely and decided to get good with women. I started talking to them on sidewalks and in malls, practiced hard and eventually became a dating coach. Today, the quest to understand girls is still a big part of my life.

Some people ask me why don’t I just write about meeting and dating the opposite sex. The answer is simple: “There’s a lot more to life than that.”

In fact, there are 4 things that count in a man’s life – and 3 of them have nothing to do with women.

To understand what drives guys, why self-improvement for men is different from general self-help and why my blog will never be about “just dating,” read on.

1. The Opposite Sex

Porn (watched mostly by men) was the #1 online activity until 2010. We’ve also got strip-clubs, thousands of profitable companies that teach guys seduction and a 100$-billion worldwide prostitution industry.

See where I’m going with this?

Men spend lots of money and energy on sex. We also enjoy female company; seek approval from girls; look for a special lady to settle down with.

In short, women are integral to our lives. The need for feminine affection – physical and otherwise – drives us on a very deep level. This is why the inability to get a girlfriend is so frustrating for men – it means a basic desire is not fulfilled.

Just remember that while women are important, they can not make you happy in and of themselves. How do you think some guys end up as dating gurus? They get good with girls, realize there’s more to life and move on to other things – like getting paid!

2. Money

Some men want money for money’s sake; others enjoy the power and possessions cash can buy; the third category simply wants the freedom that financial independence offers. Whatever the case, men like money.

Not only is it a way to buy food, clothes, houses, cars and freedom from working a 9-6 job… It’s the source of a man’s social value.

Remember how I wrote that society judges women for their looks? Well, it does the same for men and money.

If you’re well-off, you’re meeting society’s criteria for what a good, high-value man is. Financially successful guys are desirable to everyone, a lot like hot girls. Money might not buy you love but it will make you well-liked by people.

Ultimately, cold hard cash always matters, no matter how much of it you need or want.

3. Self-Actualization

Self-actualization is living up to your potential; having a kick-ass life full of meaning; doing what makes you happy.

If you’re doing crap you hate and achieving nothing, your life sucks. That’s why you can have sex and money and still be miserable if you’re not self-actualizing.

There’s just something about the triumph of high accomplishment that makes a man’s blood roar in his veins, I guess. Without it, life is just incomplete.

To me, “living up to my potential” is about sports, social psychology and writing. So long as I’m breaking personal records, getting better at meeting people and doing this blog, I love life.

You will find that understanding and fulfilling your potential will make your life awesome, too.

Always look for opportunities to be the best man you can be. Nothing will make you happier.

4. Mental & Physical Health

Being healthy might not make you happy in and of itself, but being unhealthy can ruin your life quickly.

Let’s say you had billions of dollars, a harem of women and a business you love running… But were terminally ill or stressed to the point of complete exhaustion. Would any of those possessions matter? No; of course not.

You should always strive for physical and mental health. They create the platform that allows you to live life fully. Besides, don’t you want to look and feel great as you get older?

Staying healthy isn’t that hard. Just stay active, meditate and avoid overindulging in drugs (this includes caffeine, tobacco and alcohol). No excuses!

About Balance & Self-Improvement For Men

There you have it: the 4 things that count in a man’s life; the things I strive to write about in this blog.

We want sex, female affection and all the stuff money can buy on a primal level. Those are the basic needs and wants.

Self-actualization is a more evolved desire. You might prefer laying on the couch to going for a jog, but doing the hard but necessary things will make you happier in the long run.

Health is the platform that supports everything else.

These gender-specific needs and wants are why you should balance general self-improvement with manly living.

But most importantly, never forget about balance. Don’t fixate on 1 aspect of life at the cost of everything else. You don’t want to be the bald, fat, lonely investment banker who wakes up on his 35th birthday to realize that life has passed him by.

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A few years ago, I was lonely and decided to get good with women. I started talking to them on sidewalks and in malls, practiced hard and eventually became a dating coach. Today, the quest to understand girls is still a big part of my life. Some people ask me why don’t I just write about meeting […]

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A few years ago, I was lonely and decided to get good with women. I started talking to them on sidewalks and in malls, practiced hard and eventually became a dating coach. Today, the quest to understand girls is still a big part of my life.

Some people ask me why don’t I just write about meeting and dating the opposite sex. The answer is simple: “There’s a lot more to life than that.”

In fact, there are 4 things that count in a man’s life – and 3 of them have nothing to do with women.

To understand what drives guys, why self-improvement for men is different from general self-help and why my blog will never be about “just dating,” read on.

1. The Opposite Sex

Porn (watched mostly by men) was the #1 online activity until 2010. We’ve also got strip-clubs, thousands of profitable companies that teach guys seduction and a 100$-billion worldwide prostitution industry.

See where I’m going with this?

Men spend lots of money and energy on sex. We also enjoy female company; seek approval from girls; look for a special lady to settle down with.

In short, women are integral to our lives. The need for feminine affection – physical and otherwise – drives us on a very deep level. This is why the inability to get a girlfriend is so frustrating for men – it means a basic desire is not fulfilled.

Just remember that while women are important, they can not make you happy in and of themselves. How do you think some guys end up as dating gurus? They get good with girls, realize there’s more to life and move on to other things – like getting paid!

2. Money

Some men want money for money’s sake; others enjoy the power and possessions cash can buy; the third category simply wants the freedom that financial independence offers. Whatever the case, men like money.

Not only is it a way to buy food, clothes, houses, cars and freedom from working a 9-6 job… It’s the source of a man’s social value.

Remember how I wrote that society judges women for their looks? Well, it does the same for men and money.

If you’re well-off, you’re meeting society’s criteria for what a good, high-value man is. Financially successful guys are desirable to everyone, a lot like hot girls. Money might not buy you love but it will make you well-liked by people.

Ultimately, cold hard cash always matters, no matter how much of it you need or want.

3. Self-Actualization

Self-actualization is living up to your potential; having a kick-ass life full of meaning; doing what makes you happy.

If you’re doing crap you hate and achieving nothing, your life sucks. That’s why you can have sex and money and still be miserable if you’re not self-actualizing.

There’s just something about the triumph of high accomplishment that makes a man’s blood roar in his veins, I guess. Without it, life is just incomplete.

To me, “living up to my potential” is about sports, social psychology and writing. So long as I’m breaking personal records, getting better at meeting people and doing this blog, I love life.

You will find that understanding and fulfilling your potential will make your life awesome, too.

Always look for opportunities to be the best man you can be. Nothing will make you happier.

4. Mental & Physical Health

Being healthy might not make you happy in and of itself, but being unhealthy can ruin your life quickly.

Let’s say you had billions of dollars, a harem of women and a business you love running… But were terminally ill or stressed to the point of complete exhaustion. Would any of those possessions matter? No; of course not.

You should always strive for physical and mental health. They create the platform that allows you to live life fully. Besides, don’t you want to look and feel great as you get older?

Staying healthy isn’t that hard. Just stay active, meditate and avoid overindulging in drugs (this includes caffeine, tobacco and alcohol). No excuses!

About Balance & Self-Improvement For Men

There you have it: the 4 things that count in a man’s life; the things I strive to write about in this blog.

We want sex, female affection and all the stuff money can buy on a primal level. Those are the basic needs and wants.

Self-actualization is a more evolved desire. You might prefer laying on the couch to going for a jog, but doing the hard but necessary things will make you happier in the long run.

Health is the platform that supports everything else.

These gender-specific needs and wants are why you should balance general self-improvement with manly living.

But most importantly, never forget about balance. Don’t fixate on 1 aspect of life at the cost of everything else. You don’t want to be the bald, fat, lonely investment banker who wakes up on his 35th birthday to realize that life has passed him by.

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Imagine your girlfriend (or wife) treated her ex better than she treats you. She did kinkier stuff in bed; was fully devoted to pleasing him; had more respect for him as a man. If you’re like most of us, the thought is horrifying. You want to be #1 to your woman – not “the guy […]

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Imagine your girlfriend (or wife) treated her ex better than she treats you. She did kinkier stuff in bed; was fully devoted to pleasing him; had more respect for him as a man.

If you’re like most of us, the thought is horrifying. You want to be #1 to your woman – not “the guy she settled for.”

Unfortunately, women end up with guys they have no passion for all the time – and these guys have no idea. I think that’s unfair, so I’m here to help.

If you want to understand why she treated her ex better than she treats you, whether she’s passionate about you and how to handle it all, read on.

Explaining Lovers and Providers

In old-school seduction theory, there are 2 types of men. The unpredictable Lovers make women feel submissive and sexual. The stable Providers bring out a woman’s nurturing side and are good for long-term relationships.

Agree or disagree, there is some truth to this theory. Exciting, unpredictable men (lovers) are desirable but hard to control and unwilling to commit. A girl might see one for a while – but once she’s had her fun, she’ll look for someone stable.

This is where the typical provider comes in. He’s caring, reliable and long-term oriented: a great boyfriend or husband.

Girls often work hard to keep a bad boy around because they fear losing him. With nice guys, however, there’s less incentive to make an effort. Once a woman finds a provider-type boyfriend, she knows he’s not going anywhere!

So if your girl treated her ex better than she treats you, she probably views you as a provider. He may have turned her on, but she wants you to be a part of her “happily ever after.”

The real question is, would you be happy with that?

Are You Happy To Be A Provider?

In every sexual relationship, a man is part-lover (desirable, sexual) and part-provider (platonic, caretaking). This is normal and healthy; most people want a great platonic aspect in their long-term relationships.

But that’s not what this article is about. This article is about not being the guy she settled for; it’s about never doubting that you’re the best man for your girl.

Here’s something a girl told me about her fiancé the other day:

“My previous relationships were too emotional. I don’t like [my new boyfriend] as a man; I don’t want to touch him. But he makes me feel so secure and comfortable that I’m finally happy!”

Imagine a girl saying those things about you. Straight-up ego crushing, right?  It’d kill me to know the woman I love doesn’t want or respect me as a man! Even worse, I’d feel used – and so would most men.

The trick is, the male-female dynamic is set early on in a relationship. The longer you’ve been dating a girl, the harder it is to generate respect, desire and a willingness to please.

So if you’re firmly stuck in the provider role – with not even a hint of lover in how your girl sees you – that’s unlikely to change.

The smart thing to do is draw the line as early as possible. Decide how desirable you want to be to your woman, as a man and a long-term platonic partner. Then stick to your guns and don’t settle for less.

That way, you’ll never have to worry about anyone from the past, present or future being more desirable to your chick than you are.

The Warning Signals

I’ve explained why women treat some guys differently from others and why that can be a problem. Now let’s go over the signs that a woman’s feelings for you are weak:

You can also look at her relationship(s) with her ex(es) to look for warning signs:

This list might seem obvious – and it is. The problem is, most guys are delusional when they fall in love.

Instead of thinking:

 “She never offers to pay for herself. That’s weird,”

They think:

”She never offers to pay for herself. Guess that’s how she was raised.”

Instead of thinking:

“She cried for 6 months when her ex left but never calls me back. Guess she’s not that into me,”

They think:

“She cried for 6 months when her ex left but never calls me back. Guess I need to work harder to earn her.”

Don’t be a sucker and don’t put women on a pedestal. If you don’t require the intense emotions a lover gets, that’s fine – but be realistic. Decide what you expect as early as possible and stick to your guns no matter what.

The Importance of Exes and The Past

The truth is, the past doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how a woman treated her ex or what she went through.

What does is being loved – as a lover and provider. If a woman isn’t into you with all the passion she can muster, why waste her (and your own) time?

There are plenty of fish in the sea; look for the ones who’ll love you for you.

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Imagine your girlfriend (or wife) treated her ex better than she treats you. She did kinkier stuff in bed; was fully devoted to pleasing him; had more respect for him as a man. If you’re like most of us, the thought is horrifying. You want to be #1 to your woman – not “the guy […]

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Imagine your girlfriend (or wife) treated her ex better than she treats you. She did kinkier stuff in bed; was fully devoted to pleasing him; had more respect for him as a man.

If you’re like most of us, the thought is horrifying. You want to be #1 to your woman – not “the guy she settled for.”

Unfortunately, women end up with guys they have no passion for all the time – and these guys have no idea. I think that’s unfair, so I’m here to help.

If you want to understand why she treated her ex better than she treats you, whether she’s passionate about you and how to handle it all, read on.

Explaining Lovers and Providers

In old-school seduction theory, there are 2 types of men. The unpredictable Lovers make women feel submissive and sexual. The stable Providers bring out a woman’s nurturing side and are good for long-term relationships.

Agree or disagree, there is some truth to this theory. Exciting, unpredictable men (lovers) are desirable but hard to control and unwilling to commit. A girl might see one for a while – but once she’s had her fun, she’ll look for someone stable.

This is where the typical provider comes in. He’s caring, reliable and long-term oriented: a great boyfriend or husband.

Girls often work hard to keep a bad boy around because they fear losing him. With nice guys, however, there’s less incentive to make an effort. Once a woman finds a provider-type boyfriend, she knows he’s not going anywhere!

So if your girl treated her ex better than she treats you, she probably views you as a provider. He may have turned her on, but she wants you to be a part of her “happily ever after.”

The real question is, would you be happy with that?

Are You Happy To Be A Provider?

In every sexual relationship, a man is part-lover (desirable, sexual) and part-provider (platonic, caretaking). This is normal and healthy; most people want a great platonic aspect in their long-term relationships.

But that’s not what this article is about. This article is about not being the guy she settled for; it’s about never doubting that you’re the best man for your girl.

Here’s something a girl told me about her fiancé the other day:

“My previous relationships were too emotional. I don’t like [my new boyfriend] as a man; I don’t want to touch him. But he makes me feel so secure and comfortable that I’m finally happy!”

Imagine a girl saying those things about you. Straight-up ego crushing, right?  It’d kill me to know the woman I love doesn’t want or respect me as a man! Even worse, I’d feel used – and so would most men.

The trick is, the male-female dynamic is set early on in a relationship. The longer you’ve been dating a girl, the harder it is to generate respect, desire and a willingness to please.

So if you’re firmly stuck in the provider role – with not even a hint of lover in how your girl sees you – that’s unlikely to change.

The smart thing to do is draw the line as early as possible. Decide how desirable you want to be to your woman, as a man and a long-term platonic partner. Then stick to your guns and don’t settle for less.

That way, you’ll never have to worry about anyone from the past, present or future being more desirable to your chick than you are.

The Warning Signals

I’ve explained why women treat some guys differently from others and why that can be a problem. Now let’s go over the signs that a woman’s feelings for you are weak:

You can also look at her relationship(s) with her ex(es) to look for warning signs:

This list might seem obvious – and it is. The problem is, most guys are delusional when they fall in love.

Instead of thinking:

 “She never offers to pay for herself. That’s weird,”

They think:

”She never offers to pay for herself. Guess that’s how she was raised.”

Instead of thinking:

“She cried for 6 months when her ex left but never calls me back. Guess she’s not that into me,”

They think:

“She cried for 6 months when her ex left but never calls me back. Guess I need to work harder to earn her.”

Don’t be a sucker and don’t put women on a pedestal. If you don’t require the intense emotions a lover gets, that’s fine – but be realistic. Decide what you expect as early as possible and stick to your guns no matter what.

The Importance of Exes and The Past

The truth is, the past doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how a woman treated her ex or what she went through.

What does is being loved – as a lover and provider. If a woman isn’t into you with all the passion she can muster, why waste her (and your own) time?

There are plenty of fish in the sea; look for the ones who’ll love you for you.

The post Why She Treated Her Ex Better Than She Treats You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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What’s the hardest part of approaching, attracting and seducing a woman? “The first kiss” and “Getting her number” are common answers. But haven’t you ever seen a beautiful girl and thought: “I wish I knew what to say to her”? Believe it or not, that’s how most guys feel every day: starting a conversation is the toughest part of meeting […]

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What’s the hardest part of approaching, attracting and seducing a woman?

“The first kiss” and “Getting her number” are common answers. But haven’t you ever seen a beautiful girl and thought: “I wish I knew what to say to her”?

Believe it or not, that’s how most guys feel every day: starting a conversation is the toughest part of meeting and seducing a woman.

To simplify things, men use pick-up lines that range from cheesy one-liners to sophisticated PUA routines. There’s just one small problem. Pick-up lines don’t work and never willEven the fancy-schmancy PUA ones.

Here’s why.

Pick-Up Lines: The History

A research confirms you probably know already: men think logically, women think emotionally.

In fact, us guys are so logical we systematize everything – even attraction. Talk smooth, dress nice, explain how cool you are and get laid: this is how we intuitively approach seduction.

From this perspective, pick-up lines make sense. Memorizing and delivering a scripted phrase means you have less to worry about. You can talk smooth, display value and say something cool – all in one motion.

(Alternatively, you can use one of these and maybe elicit a few laughs.)

The first pick-up artists took things one step further and memorized entire conversations, routines and stories. Like pick-up lines, these were designed to get you liked and – eventually – laid.

Over time, increasingly complex pick-up lines – or openers – were developed. Some were based on psychology, others on humor – but openers of all kinds were a cornerstone of seduction theory for many years.

(Just to give you an idea of how important openers were to PUAs: I spent 2 months doing nothing but writing, practicing and refining mine in 2019.)

Then, something happened. After many years of routines and lines, pick-up artists started moving away from memorization. That’s when they realized why pick-up lines don’t work and never will.

Why Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work

If you’re a cool guy – and you probably are – you think you know what I’m about to say. “Pick-up lines don’t work because they’re corny.” ZING! You’re wrong; good openers can be clever and classy.

I’m not a moralist, either; I’m not here to say that getting laid using scripts and memorization is wrong. If pick-up lines could help you find love and sex, I’d encourage you to use them.

But there’s a good reason the seduction community has turned away from canned openers (pre-written pick-up lines): they suck!

Let’s say you come up with a great line and are ready to use it. Already, you’re facing a few tough questions:

It doesn’t matter how good your pick-up line is – from the moment of its inception, it’s creating problems for you! Unless you plan for all of them, you’ll fail a lot – or, even worse, do nothing (from fear of failure).

But what if you could write the best openers, have a plan for every scenario and memorize all this junk? Would pick-up lines work then?

The answer is still “No.”

5 More Reasons Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work

Earlier, I wrote I once spent 2 months doing nothing but practicing openers. I could start a conversation effortlessly long before I started getting regular dates (or sex).

But as I used my “pick-up lines,” I kept running into the same problems. I later learned that many top-tier PUAs experienced them too. Here they are:

  1. They get stale – unless you’re an acting enthusiast, you get sick of saying “I’m buying a present for my sister…” after the 100th time.
  2. They’re unnatural – even if you wrote the line, it doesn’t reflect what you feel/think/want as you’re walking up to a girl. If your mood doesn’t match the opener, you will come across as unnatural and weird.
  3. Girls know – women are much better at “sensing” things than men. If a line is stale or unnatural to you, the girl will know. Being spontaneous and expressing yourself honestly is way easier.
  4. You can get away with saying anything – Women don’t care about what you say – only how you make them feel. Once you understand this, pick-up lines become unnecessary.
  5. Lines = excuses – An opener is just an excuse for you and a girl to start talking. And when your life is full of excuses, you’re not being a man – which is harmful to your development and unattractive to girls.

The bottom line is, I’ve spent god knows how much time studying openers and getting them to work. It’s OK to have one or two for emergencies, but trust me when I say that being spontaneous is always better – even if all you say is “Hey there.”

The real purpose of pick-up lines (or openers) – if you’re serious about studying attraction – is to give you the courage to walk up and say something. Other than that, remember: what you’re saying doesn’t matter to women. What matters is how you feel and how you make them feel.

So forget the pick-up lines; if you want to talk to a girl, start with a simple “hey.”

The post Why Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work And Never Will appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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What’s the hardest part of approaching, attracting and seducing a woman? “The first kiss” and “Getting her number” are common answers. But haven’t you ever seen a beautiful girl and thought: “I wish I knew what to say to her”? Believe it or not, that’s how most guys feel every day: starting a conversation is the toughest part of meeting […]

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What’s the hardest part of approaching, attracting and seducing a woman?

“The first kiss” and “Getting her number” are common answers. But haven’t you ever seen a beautiful girl and thought: “I wish I knew what to say to her”?

Believe it or not, that’s how most guys feel every day: starting a conversation is the toughest part of meeting and seducing a woman.

To simplify things, men use pick-up lines that range from cheesy one-liners to sophisticated PUA routines. There’s just one small problem. Pick-up lines don’t work and never willEven the fancy-schmancy PUA ones.

Here’s why.

Pick-Up Lines: The History

A research confirms you probably know already: men think logically, women think emotionally.

In fact, us guys are so logical we systematize everything – even attraction. Talk smooth, dress nice, explain how cool you are and get laid: this is how we intuitively approach seduction.

From this perspective, pick-up lines make sense. Memorizing and delivering a scripted phrase means you have less to worry about. You can talk smooth, display value and say something cool – all in one motion.

(Alternatively, you can use one of these and maybe elicit a few laughs.)

The first pick-up artists took things one step further and memorized entire conversations, routines and stories. Like pick-up lines, these were designed to get you liked and – eventually – laid.

Over time, increasingly complex pick-up lines – or openers – were developed. Some were based on psychology, others on humor – but openers of all kinds were a cornerstone of seduction theory for many years.

(Just to give you an idea of how important openers were to PUAs: I spent 2 months doing nothing but writing, practicing and refining mine in 2019.)

Then, something happened. After many years of routines and lines, pick-up artists started moving away from memorization. That’s when they realized why pick-up lines don’t work and never will.

Why Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work

If you’re a cool guy – and you probably are – you think you know what I’m about to say. “Pick-up lines don’t work because they’re corny.” ZING! You’re wrong; good openers can be clever and classy.

I’m not a moralist, either; I’m not here to say that getting laid using scripts and memorization is wrong. If pick-up lines could help you find love and sex, I’d encourage you to use them.

But there’s a good reason the seduction community has turned away from canned openers (pre-written pick-up lines): they suck!

Let’s say you come up with a great line and are ready to use it. Already, you’re facing a few tough questions:

It doesn’t matter how good your pick-up line is – from the moment of its inception, it’s creating problems for you! Unless you plan for all of them, you’ll fail a lot – or, even worse, do nothing (from fear of failure).

But what if you could write the best openers, have a plan for every scenario and memorize all this junk? Would pick-up lines work then?

The answer is still “No.”

5 More Reasons Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work

Earlier, I wrote I once spent 2 months doing nothing but practicing openers. I could start a conversation effortlessly long before I started getting regular dates (or sex).

But as I used my “pick-up lines,” I kept running into the same problems. I later learned that many top-tier PUAs experienced them too. Here they are:

  1. They get stale – unless you’re an acting enthusiast, you get sick of saying “I’m buying a present for my sister…” after the 100th time.
  2. They’re unnatural – even if you wrote the line, it doesn’t reflect what you feel/think/want as you’re walking up to a girl. If your mood doesn’t match the opener, you will come across as unnatural and weird.
  3. Girls know – women are much better at “sensing” things than men. If a line is stale or unnatural to you, the girl will know. Being spontaneous and expressing yourself honestly is way easier.
  4. You can get away with saying anything – Women don’t care about what you say – only how you make them feel. Once you understand this, pick-up lines become unnecessary.
  5. Lines = excuses – An opener is just an excuse for you and a girl to start talking. And when your life is full of excuses, you’re not being a man – which is harmful to your development and unattractive to girls.

The bottom line is, I’ve spent god knows how much time studying openers and getting them to work. It’s OK to have one or two for emergencies, but trust me when I say that being spontaneous is always better – even if all you say is “Hey there.”

The real purpose of pick-up lines (or openers) – if you’re serious about studying attraction – is to give you the courage to walk up and say something. Other than that, remember: what you’re saying doesn’t matter to women. What matters is how you feel and how you make them feel.

So forget the pick-up lines; if you want to talk to a girl, start with a simple “hey.”

The post Why Pick-Up Lines Don’t Work And Never Will appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Every day, junk information is thrown at us from every direction: TV; newspapers; gossip from acquaintances; the internet (the master source of all useless trivia). Some of this information is about women and attracts the attention of guys looking for helpful dating advice. The challenge is finding the signal over all the noise. With so […]

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Every day, junk information is thrown at us from every direction: TV; newspapers; gossip from acquaintances; the internet (the master source of all useless trivia).

Some of this information is about women and attracts the attention of guys looking for helpful dating advice. The challenge is finding the signal over all the noise.

With so much fluff out there, where do you start? And more importantly, since so much of this advice is directly contradictory, who should you believe?

Dealing With Contradictory Dating Advice

I’m sure you’ve heard each of the following more than once:

A1. “You should smile and be friendly when talking with women, it’ll make them feel comfortable.”

A2. “You shouldn’t smile; James Bond doesn’t smile when he talks to women and he’s the smoothest guy ever.”

B1. “You should wear something that makes you stand out and be unique, you know, like a giant fuzzy top hat!”

B2. “You shouldn’t wear weird things that draw negative attention to yourself.”

C1. “Alpha males are dudes who SMASH STUFF and don’t take crap from no one, GRRR!”

C2. “Alpha males are leaders who keep everyone working together towards a greater vision and cause.”

A lot of the dating advice you find online is contradictory, useless or crazy – but there are also many gems of wisdom out there. That’s why the best tip of all is this: be skeptical and test the dating tips you read by applying them.

To be clear, skepticism is NOT the same as being a naysayer or a hater who sits back, watches others take action and judges. I’m talking about the healthy skepticism of a man who doesn’t believe everything he hears.

So test scientifically and consistently. No need to get out your lab coat and beakers; simply raise an eyebrow and race to test out any advice you read with a curious, “hmmm, I wonder if that works.”

As you cultivate this habit of experimenting, you’ll find that you’re propelled actually talking to girls – lots of them. The fact is, the most fundamental aspect of improving your dating life is manning up, going outside and meeting to lots of women. Socializing constantly is the foundation on which everything else is built – no man has dated more women than he’s met!

The Benefits Of Skepticism

Having a keen sense of skepticism guards you from useless tips, malicious attempts to salt your game and even well-intentioned but misguided advice. What works for you, works for you, but what works for another guy may have no effect on – or even harm! – your game.

Everything that makes each person unique plays a factor: upbringing, cultural background, family relationships, previous romantic experiences, core values, and even seemingly unrelated things like taste in movies or sense of humor.

So when we hear vague advice like “Just be confident, man,” we can slice that junk data out right away since there’s no way to test it and get consistent results with a large sample pool of women-talked-to. (Be wary of vague dating advice that doesn’t actually give you specific actions you can take and test.)

And no, we’re not talking about “I tried this and it didn’t work on that one girl.” To conclude what actually works or not, you need sample pools of dozens, nay, hundreds, even thousands of women talked to in as short a time as possible, keeping all variables as consistent as possible. Usually, this requires getting up and out onto the streets of downtown to start rolling out tests. Tests like:

Do I get more phone numbers wearing blue ties or red ties?

Do I get more phone numbers while smiling or keeping a deadpan expression?

Do I get more phone numbers by saying “Tell me your phone number,” or by asking “What’s your phone number?

Once that’s done you can look back over your data. Which ties tested better, red or blue? Smile, or deadpan? Command, or question? What you’re left with is what works… For you.

You might find that with a big enough sample pool, you can pinpoint the most important variables in your success with women while realizing that most of the dating advice out there has absolutely nothing to do finding, meeting, attracting and keeping high value women of exceptional beauty and accomplishment (my favorite type).

How The Good Got Good

Want to talk about really getting an edge over the competition? Jerry Rice, one of the best NFL players of all time, said: “Today I will do what others won’t so tomorrow I can accomplish what others can’t.”

Few guys bring this level of skepticism and scientific testing to the field of dating advice and use it to meet tons of women on a daily basis… So when you get out and start talking to lots women, you’ll be in a league of your own pretty soon.

After a while, it becomes hilarious to see dating advice in a mainstream sources or any of the goofy stuff in Cosmopolitan. Recently, I read something like “According to science, women are more attracted to men who share their emotions,” then goes on to cite a study done by undergrads who interviewed 22 other college students about their feelings. Without even getting into the shoddy research methods, the microscopic sample pool of 22 people pretty much disqualified any of the data right off the bat.

But before drawing any hasty conclusions, it might be a good idea to take the information from that article and turn it into a testable variable. One week or month spent meeting women while blubbering out emotions, and another sticking to the straight and narrow by practicing self-control and patience. Test it out yourself (I already know what works for me and every other guy I know who is successful with women).

Only way to know for sure is to Man Up, get out there and test it out by meeting massive numbers of attractive women.

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Every day, junk information is thrown at us from every direction: TV; newspapers; gossip from acquaintances; the internet (the master source of all useless trivia).

Some of this information is about women and attracts the attention of guys looking for helpful dating advice. The challenge is finding the signal over all the noise.

With so much fluff out there, where do you start? And more importantly, since so much of this advice is directly contradictory, who should you believe?

Dealing With Contradictory Dating Advice

I’m sure you’ve heard each of the following more than once:

A1. “You should smile and be friendly when talking with women, it’ll make them feel comfortable.”

A2. “You shouldn’t smile; James Bond doesn’t smile when he talks to women and he’s the smoothest guy ever.”

B1. “You should wear something that makes you stand out and be unique, you know, like a giant fuzzy top hat!”

B2. “You shouldn’t wear weird things that draw negative attention to yourself.”

C1. “Alpha males are dudes who SMASH STUFF and don’t take crap from no one, GRRR!”

C2. “Alpha males are leaders who keep everyone working together towards a greater vision and cause.”

A lot of the dating advice you find online is contradictory, useless or crazy – but there are also many gems of wisdom out there. That’s why the best tip of all is this: be skeptical and test the dating tips you read by applying them.

To be clear, skepticism is NOT the same as being a naysayer or a hater who sits back, watches others take action and judges. I’m talking about the healthy skepticism of a man who doesn’t believe everything he hears.

So test scientifically and consistently. No need to get out your lab coat and beakers; simply raise an eyebrow and race to test out any advice you read with a curious, “hmmm, I wonder if that works.”

As you cultivate this habit of experimenting, you’ll find that you’re propelled actually talking to girls – lots of them. The fact is, the most fundamental aspect of improving your dating life is manning up, going outside and meeting to lots of women. Socializing constantly is the foundation on which everything else is built – no man has dated more women than he’s met!

The Benefits Of Skepticism

Having a keen sense of skepticism guards you from useless tips, malicious attempts to salt your game and even well-intentioned but misguided advice. What works for you, works for you, but what works for another guy may have no effect on – or even harm! – your game.

Everything that makes each person unique plays a factor: upbringing, cultural background, family relationships, previous romantic experiences, core values, and even seemingly unrelated things like taste in movies or sense of humor.

So when we hear vague advice like “Just be confident, man,” we can slice that junk data out right away since there’s no way to test it and get consistent results with a large sample pool of women-talked-to. (Be wary of vague dating advice that doesn’t actually give you specific actions you can take and test.)

And no, we’re not talking about “I tried this and it didn’t work on that one girl.” To conclude what actually works or not, you need sample pools of dozens, nay, hundreds, even thousands of women talked to in as short a time as possible, keeping all variables as consistent as possible. Usually, this requires getting up and out onto the streets of downtown to start rolling out tests. Tests like:

Do I get more phone numbers wearing blue ties or red ties?

Do I get more phone numbers while smiling or keeping a deadpan expression?

Do I get more phone numbers by saying “Tell me your phone number,” or by asking “What’s your phone number?

Once that’s done you can look back over your data. Which ties tested better, red or blue? Smile, or deadpan? Command, or question? What you’re left with is what works… For you.

You might find that with a big enough sample pool, you can pinpoint the most important variables in your success with women while realizing that most of the dating advice out there has absolutely nothing to do finding, meeting, attracting and keeping high value women of exceptional beauty and accomplishment (my favorite type).

How The Good Got Good

Want to talk about really getting an edge over the competition? Jerry Rice, one of the best NFL players of all time, said: “Today I will do what others won’t so tomorrow I can accomplish what others can’t.”

Few guys bring this level of skepticism and scientific testing to the field of dating advice and use it to meet tons of women on a daily basis… So when you get out and start talking to lots women, you’ll be in a league of your own pretty soon.

After a while, it becomes hilarious to see dating advice in a mainstream sources or any of the goofy stuff in Cosmopolitan. Recently, I read something like “According to science, women are more attracted to men who share their emotions,” then goes on to cite a study done by undergrads who interviewed 22 other college students about their feelings. Without even getting into the shoddy research methods, the microscopic sample pool of 22 people pretty much disqualified any of the data right off the bat.

But before drawing any hasty conclusions, it might be a good idea to take the information from that article and turn it into a testable variable. One week or month spent meeting women while blubbering out emotions, and another sticking to the straight and narrow by practicing self-control and patience. Test it out yourself (I already know what works for me and every other guy I know who is successful with women).

Only way to know for sure is to Man Up, get out there and test it out by meeting massive numbers of attractive women.

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As kids, didn’t we all want to be liked and accepted by everyone? I’m sure you can remember how important being popular was in school; how much fitting in mattered. But if you look at your adult life, you’ll realize that not much has changed. Everyone still wants to be liked and fears being disliked. […]

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As kids, didn’t we all want to be liked and accepted by everyone? I’m sure you can remember how important being popular was in school; how much fitting in mattered.

But if you look at your adult life, you’ll realize that not much has changed. Everyone still wants to be liked and fears being disliked. Being hated by another person is very upsetting, being shunned by a group – devastating.

Why do we care about what others think of us so much? And what should you do when people don’t like you?

As Cavemen, We Were 100% Reliant On Other People

Think back to the Stone Ages. Back then, our ancestors did everything in groups because that was the best way to survive. Hunting in a group meant bigger prey; sleeping in a group meant being safe; living in a group allowed for specialization, the basis of modern society.

Since surviving solo was real tough back then, being kicked out of your group often meant dying. Even if you could survive on your own, the chances of finding a stray female to mate with were low. Being alone meant being unable to survive and/or procreate – the two main functions of any living organism.

As a result – whether through adaption or natural selection – humansevolved to fear being disliked by groups as well as individuals they have any relationship with. To your subconscious mind, getting rejected or kicked out of a social group is just as scary as death.

This is why we want to fit in and be accepted; this is why rejection hurts so much; this is why being disliked by other people is one of the most terrifying things in life.

When People Don’t Like You

As explained above, being disliked elicits the same emotional response as the risk death. This is something we all experience as humans; it’s part of our hardware. The natural reaction is to act in ways that create and maintain good relationships with others.

But in a world of over 6 billion people, does it really matter whether someone likes you or not?

In the stone age, being kicked out of a social group meant death. In 2020, finding new people is easier than ever before. Between the internet, cheap airfare and a huge world population, you’ll always have new people to try your luck with. And even if every single on the planet hates your guts, we no longer rely on each other for day-to-day survival!

If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing. – Margaret Thatcher

If a girl rejects you, there are hundreds of millions of women you can still have. If you lose a friend, you can find a new one. If you get kicked out of a social group, you’ll still fit in somewhere – the possibilities are infinite.

So when a person doesn’t like you, the natural reaction is to make them like you – or get upset. The next time you feel tempted to do either, ask yourself:  with a near-infinite pool of people you can socialize with, why bother?

You can put invest a lot of time and effort into winning over someone who hates your guts; true. Or you can ignore that person and make a much smaller effort to meet someone who does like you.

How To Be Loved And Have A Good Life

We’ve all met people who agree with everything we say, are mega-nice to us for no reason, etc. Since they’re so busy winning our approval, they don’t have a chance to show us their personalities and come across as bland.

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something sometime in your life. – Winston Churchill

Don’t be like those guys (and girls). Be genuine, stand up for what you believe in and express yourself freely. You’ll alienate many people – some may even hate you – but you’ll have the love and admiration of most. People love, the free, the bold and the uninhibited.

Let go of people who don’t like you. Do it before you even meet them by refusing to sacrifice your dignity and power of self-expression self for someone’s approval. At the end of the day, this isn’t the Stone Age – you don’t need to be liked by everyone!

Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind – Bernard M. Baruch

So what should you do when people don’t like you? The answer’s simple: cut them off. Never stay around people who don’t appreciate you. Their presence is poisonous; just by being around them, you’ll become convinced you that you’re unworthy. Stick to the people who like you. The more you do this, the more you surround yourself with positivity and appreciation; it’s a great way to live.

As a cool side-effect, you’ll also find that the people who do like you do so very intensely when you’re unafraid of being disliked. It’s a great way to live; have fun with it.

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As kids, didn’t we all want to be liked and accepted by everyone? I’m sure you can remember how important being popular was in school; how much fitting in mattered. But if you look at your adult life, you’ll realize that not much has changed. Everyone still wants to be liked and fears being disliked. […]

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As kids, didn’t we all want to be liked and accepted by everyone? I’m sure you can remember how important being popular was in school; how much fitting in mattered.

But if you look at your adult life, you’ll realize that not much has changed. Everyone still wants to be liked and fears being disliked. Being hated by another person is very upsetting, being shunned by a group – devastating.

Why do we care about what others think of us so much? And what should you do when people don’t like you?

As Cavemen, We Were 100% Reliant On Other People

Think back to the Stone Ages. Back then, our ancestors did everything in groups because that was the best way to survive. Hunting in a group meant bigger prey; sleeping in a group meant being safe; living in a group allowed for specialization, the basis of modern society.

Since surviving solo was real tough back then, being kicked out of your group often meant dying. Even if you could survive on your own, the chances of finding a stray female to mate with were low. Being alone meant being unable to survive and/or procreate – the two main functions of any living organism.

As a result – whether through adaption or natural selection – humansevolved to fear being disliked by groups as well as individuals they have any relationship with. To your subconscious mind, getting rejected or kicked out of a social group is just as scary as death.

This is why we want to fit in and be accepted; this is why rejection hurts so much; this is why being disliked by other people is one of the most terrifying things in life.

When People Don’t Like You

As explained above, being disliked elicits the same emotional response as the risk death. This is something we all experience as humans; it’s part of our hardware. The natural reaction is to act in ways that create and maintain good relationships with others.

But in a world of over 6 billion people, does it really matter whether someone likes you or not?

In the stone age, being kicked out of a social group meant death. In 2020, finding new people is easier than ever before. Between the internet, cheap airfare and a huge world population, you’ll always have new people to try your luck with. And even if every single on the planet hates your guts, we no longer rely on each other for day-to-day survival!

If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing. – Margaret Thatcher

If a girl rejects you, there are hundreds of millions of women you can still have. If you lose a friend, you can find a new one. If you get kicked out of a social group, you’ll still fit in somewhere – the possibilities are infinite.

So when a person doesn’t like you, the natural reaction is to make them like you – or get upset. The next time you feel tempted to do either, ask yourself:  with a near-infinite pool of people you can socialize with, why bother?

You can put invest a lot of time and effort into winning over someone who hates your guts; true. Or you can ignore that person and make a much smaller effort to meet someone who does like you.

How To Be Loved And Have A Good Life

We’ve all met people who agree with everything we say, are mega-nice to us for no reason, etc. Since they’re so busy winning our approval, they don’t have a chance to show us their personalities and come across as bland.

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something sometime in your life. – Winston Churchill

Don’t be like those guys (and girls). Be genuine, stand up for what you believe in and express yourself freely. You’ll alienate many people – some may even hate you – but you’ll have the love and admiration of most. People love, the free, the bold and the uninhibited.

Let go of people who don’t like you. Do it before you even meet them by refusing to sacrifice your dignity and power of self-expression self for someone’s approval. At the end of the day, this isn’t the Stone Age – you don’t need to be liked by everyone!

Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind – Bernard M. Baruch

So what should you do when people don’t like you? The answer’s simple: cut them off. Never stay around people who don’t appreciate you. Their presence is poisonous; just by being around them, you’ll become convinced you that you’re unworthy. Stick to the people who like you. The more you do this, the more you surround yourself with positivity and appreciation; it’s a great way to live.

As a cool side-effect, you’ll also find that the people who do like you do so very intensely when you’re unafraid of being disliked. It’s a great way to live; have fun with it.

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